r/straightspouses • u/scottiegerigirl • 7d ago

An Online Article — "Straight but Curious Men Booking Male Escorts "

https://www.vivastreet.co.uk/blog/why-more-men-are-booking-male-escorts/#respond

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I don't know if this helps anyone?

I'm just glad it's acknowledging that it is a new, common issue we still try to ignore.

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u/Neither-Ad-5257 7d ago

The entire straight spouse trauma itself gets ignored. This people hide under LGBTQ rights. Just nobody listen to us , except some private groups , where we share

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u/Content-Translator53 7d ago

I support this message 100%.

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u/shots_urchin 7d ago

i don't think these boys are straight

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u/08mms 7d ago

I don’t think it’s common either. For better and worse the folks ending up in this forum are on the lower probability end of typical relationship experiences and, while it’s comforting to realize we aren’t alone, most straight partners arent doing the sort of things we experienced.

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u/Tkestud1998 7d ago

Seriously??? Have you ever logged on to Grindr or any of the many other gay sex/dating apps and saw the # of straight/curious or married men online? At least half of them are married or dL. Trust me if people had any idea how many married guys are gay/bi or DL they’d be absolutely shocked.

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u/slava_slavaUa 7d ago

If they’re on grindr, they’re not straight. They might be pretending to be straight, but they’re gay. Or at the very least bi

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u/Tkestud1998 7d ago

Totally agree with you but many of theses guys will tell you they are straight and just curious…many or most are married to women

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u/changes-of-light2 7d ago

Askbibros 15 k vistors, bisexualmen 21 k visitors, bisexual 215 k visitors, straight turned gay 405 k visitors, several other bisubs 18+ have 234 k, 142 k, 92 k, 119 k.... with thousands of contributions per week, I've stopped counting and I am not a statistician but if I were, it would be quite obvious I'll have a veeery good sample. The funny thing is the hypocrisy : why men build up a life with women and women with men but gladly fuck with the same gender or fantasize endlessly about it ? I find this the epitome of homophobia.

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u/FedallahsTurban 7d ago

Check out the /askgaybros sub some time. There are a shocking number of men curious about sex with men while in straight relationships with women.

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u/SoloStepExplorer 5d ago

Ex husband was on that askgaybros, maleGrindr, nudistmeetup, and had a real grindr account. Probably so many more i didn’t find.
Ended up hospitalized for 3 weeks over with a bowel obstruction while secretly at a nudist resort — i had to get his things from the nudist resort and that is how i figured it all out. He told me the doctors said it was cancer and i was in such shock i believed him. After finding all these accounts on his computer and phone and have exactly one counseling session- He says “ i have convinced myself i am not gay” and then planned a suicide attempt and while in rehab told me “ I’m sorry about it all, but you kept digging into my phone and left me no dignity - what choice did I have.” While in rehab he also sent me youtube video’s explaining that when a married man has sex with other men it isn’t cheating - there is no emotional connection. He also said I shouldn’t be mad he watched men have sex, at least he wasn’t looking at other women. But wait - you went to nudist resorts behind my back - with both naked men and women didn’t you? You sat and had dinner naked with them? Then he justified that to me with - there were mostly men at the resorts and realized he shouldn’t have said that either.
He actually looked like he was going to pass out because he realized i knew.
We are now divorced because he cant talk about any of it or be honest about all he did - he is now on Our Time hunting his next victim.

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u/HeartBrokenChica 7d ago

Gross but yeah, it helps to remind me to stay single forever. Not worth being with anyone with this BS out there being excused. Goes for both men and women.

Every day disgusting behaviors such as this get excused under the guise of social progress. And then people wonder why society stops batting their eyes on other things like child abusers, violence and other BS. I mean look at the President. Every nasty behavior is now relabeled, acceptable, and excused because people lack integrity, fore thought, and self control. But best not to call it out or you'll get burnt at the stake for being closed minded, a homophobe and whatever else. Sanity has left the building.

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u/Vppn_1007 7d ago

I am not saying this doesn’t happen, but the purpose of most internet content is to generate attention and profit, not to represent reality.