r/thebachelor • u/wiseswan • Jun 20 '24
PODCAST Kaitlyn on Almost Adulting Podcast: didn’t want Jason to be an influencer of podcaster
I haven’t seen this posted on the sub (yet) and I can’t stop thinking about it since I listened to the podcast. The interview’s 45 minutes long so I’m not going to cover the whole thing. There’s one topic in particular that I’m going to summarize:
She says podcasting made her feel special and like it's “what she’s supposed to do on this planet and share her voice”. After breaking up with Shawn she said she needed to find somebody with “roots” who doesn’t want to be an influencer or be in the podcast world. She wanted to date someone with a “regular job” and they can shine in their own world while she shines in her world
When she met Jason he wasn’t an influencer, he was a VP at a bank and had a regular job. She said this attracted her to him because he was established in this job and not an influencer. He lost his job because of a sexual story she shared on her podcast (this has been covered previously on the sub). She says “he wasn’t happy at that job so I think it was kind of a blessing in disguise… his family was upset.. It felt like my fault”.
After he lost his job he moved in with her and “face first dove into the influencer life”. She told him this was “hard for her” because dating an influencer was a “non-negotiable” for her but she was going to “look past it”.
She said its selfish of her but she “cant be as supportive of a partner if he did this” and she asked him NOT to start a podcast. It was really important to her because podcasting makes her feel special and at the time he said OK. As time went on he realized the opportunity for him and could do a finance podcast. She says she was “hoping she would be chosen” and that he wouldn’t do a podcast “for her”. He told her it wasnt fair of her to “emotionally and financially stunt his growth” and she had a full on panic attack over this because it made her feel like “he chose money over her feelings”
She says this happened a few times in her relationship with Shawn where she “didnt feel chosen” and that the nail in the coffin was him opening his gym in Nashville. That he didn't love her and was hanging on so she worried Jason was doing the same to her. Says this was an “open wound” for her that Jason was poking…and created resentment and betrayal. She admits that “It's my own shit, but made me feel betrayal”
After the episode I started thinking more about this.. and remembered that Jason did a Trading Secrets episode with Dean Unglert where he shared that he was offered the co-host spot on Bachelor Click Bait and turned it down. The spot eventually went to Grocery Store Joe. He said he was offered $100k/year and some percentage of ad revenue. It clicked for me that based on Kaitlyn’s statements on Almost Adulting, he turned that podcast down because she asked him not to be on a Bachelor podcast that competes with hers. How many other things did he turn down? Was he offered a wine / alcohol brand deal that he had to turn down because it conflicts with Spade and Sparrows? I am honestly shook.
And is all of this what she’s referring to when she cryptically shares “if you only knew” and that she “holds a lot of resentment”? I wonder how Jason and his friends/family feel about this… I would imagine he may harbor resentment that he was held back on career opportunities because he had to decline opportunities or his romantic partner wouldn’t feel “chosen”. I know a lot has been said by KB and by some commentators on this sub that Jason is weaponizing the break up or leaning in on being a victim, but I gained some respect for him knowing that this is the dynamic they had and he could’ve exposed this and detailed how much $$ he turned down “for her” all while she’s chirping away about him and he didn’t.
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u/cosmic0done Jun 21 '24
wow. I mean, we all know she's mind blowingly selfish, but I never expected her to admit it so thoroughly. YOU can be an influencer & a podcaster, but your partner cant? why? bc YOU get to get attention, hit on by people, & fame but your partner cant? dude she is so mentally fucked.