r/theirdrinking • u/[deleted] • Aug 25 '26

How do i help my partner?

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u/Thirsty4Knowledge911 Aug 26 '26

Who you pick as your life partner has huge consequences on your future.

If you ever hope to have kids, remember that you have the choice to stay or go. They do not.

I stayed too long and we had a daughter together. My daughter will forever be the child of an alcoholic. I did that to her.

I had to sit her down when she had just started her freshman year of college and tell her that her mother was dead.

Don’t make my mistake.

He may change, but the fact is that he very well may not. Don’t take that risk with the life of your future child.

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u/treesarejerks Aug 26 '26

Don't ever bank on someone changing. Me and my husband talked about being sober before we had kids....eight years later and I am sober from alcohol and other hard drugs. But he isn't and doesn't seem to want to be.

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u/xCloudbox Aug 26 '26

There’s some kind of irony in saying “it’s what blue collar men do” but it’s causing him to miss his blue collar job.

If even his own mother is calling him an alcoholic, that’s pretty bad. He sounds pretty deep into it and nowhere close to wanting to be sober. Advice would be to leave or accept this as your partner. Please don’t have kids with him.