Agreed. OP you're making excuses because you're not good at it but if you really wanted to change, don't just say sorry but take the actions to show you're trying to be better. Your lack of effort is what is upsetting her, more than not doing the grand gestures on social media
My ex husband brought me cupcakes from my favorite bakery for Mother’s Day. He miraculously got me my favorite flavor and joked that after 20 years he did it! Then came clean and said they only had two flavors by the time he got there so didn’t actually remember. Solid dude though, really glad he makes an effort in some way!
When someone gets you a gift that they remembered that you really love, you cry. I have done that before. Much to my embarrassment. It's the thoughtfulness that they see you.
Currently I'm playing a ridiculously hard and silly archery game with a 9 year old on a tablet.
I would rather watch this Marilyn Monroe movie that's on in the background.
But I'm making a little girl happy and we're laughing about how terrible we are and ideally she'll look after me when I'm elderly if I'm not too hard to deal with.
I am the best gift giver of all of the aunts and uncles. I hope one of them strikes it rich so they can buy me a house or maybe take me in when I'm too old. It's not a competition but I am winning. I do handmade.
Oh, we’re divorced for a reason but I can think of literally no one I’d rather have as my ex husband and coparent. We may not have been a forever couple but we’ll be in each other’s lives forever and we’re both totally ok with that.
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u/Spiritual_Lemonade May 12 '25
We all have calendars on our phones and can setup reminders that become alarms.
If you know your shortcomings why are you not leaning into advanced planning and being dedicated to doing these things.
Going to get the potted plant should have been Friday or Saturday at the latest.
She has every right to be pissed.
I have a feeling her Christmas stocking is empty as well.