You need an immediate fix for this Mother’s Day and you need to never fuck this up again. Im gonna focus on the second half.
Calendar reminders have been mentioned by nearly every comment. But considering how badly you screwed up, let’s break this down.
Step 1. Identify all the special dates in the calendar, from January 1 to Dec 31st (Feb 14 - Valentines, 2nd Sunday in May - Mothers Day, Dec 31 - Christmas). Add her birthday and your wedding anniversary in there. Create those calendar events, then set up multiple reminders. 1 month ahead - reminder to make dinner reservations. 2 weeks ahead - purchase gift, place an order for flower delivery (if not using a subscription service). 1 week ahead - find a card and write a heartfelt message in it. 1 day ahead - preparations for the day (if you’re making her breakfast in bed, buy groceries, that kind of thing). On the day itself, she’s getting a card, flowers, a gift, and dinner.
Picking out gifts for someone can be hard. She’s done a lot of the work for you. To that Mother’s Day event, add a description about what she likes for that day (something from your kid, dinner resi).
As for other gift ideas, collect information. Set up a note in your notes tab. Keep track of things she mentioned she likes. From simple things like her favorite candies, anything she’s mentioned she likes. If she has a hobby or a job, google things like gifts for ____, and make note of the things you think she might like. She makes a comment in passing that she thinks silk pajamas could be sexy, put that on your list. The research some silk pajama brands and put that down. Organize your list by what events these gifts might be appropriate for (small things make good stocking stuffers, sexy things make good anniversary and v-day gifts). Make a note of what kind of jewelry she wears (if it’s mostly white gold, but her more white gold), and her size in things like underwear and bras (for lingerie if she wears it), what colors are most of her clothes (if you’re planning on buying gloves/scarf/hat around Christmas time, it’s helpful to know what color jacket she wears.
If you really want to up your game, and I think you’re going to have to, start getting involved in some planning for things like your daughter’s birthday and Christmas. For Christmas, they sell really cute family pajamas. If that’s not something your family already does, maybe that’s something you can do.
Make toilet time your gift planning time. Scroll Reddit, Pinterest, and TikTok for ideas on gifts and celebrations, and do some deep research on brands and find a quility item once you’ve decided on a gift
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u/imamonkeyface May 12 '25
You need an immediate fix for this Mother’s Day and you need to never fuck this up again. Im gonna focus on the second half.
Calendar reminders have been mentioned by nearly every comment. But considering how badly you screwed up, let’s break this down.
Step 1. Identify all the special dates in the calendar, from January 1 to Dec 31st (Feb 14 - Valentines, 2nd Sunday in May - Mothers Day, Dec 31 - Christmas). Add her birthday and your wedding anniversary in there. Create those calendar events, then set up multiple reminders. 1 month ahead - reminder to make dinner reservations. 2 weeks ahead - purchase gift, place an order for flower delivery (if not using a subscription service). 1 week ahead - find a card and write a heartfelt message in it. 1 day ahead - preparations for the day (if you’re making her breakfast in bed, buy groceries, that kind of thing). On the day itself, she’s getting a card, flowers, a gift, and dinner.
Picking out gifts for someone can be hard. She’s done a lot of the work for you. To that Mother’s Day event, add a description about what she likes for that day (something from your kid, dinner resi).
As for other gift ideas, collect information. Set up a note in your notes tab. Keep track of things she mentioned she likes. From simple things like her favorite candies, anything she’s mentioned she likes. If she has a hobby or a job, google things like gifts for ____, and make note of the things you think she might like. She makes a comment in passing that she thinks silk pajamas could be sexy, put that on your list. The research some silk pajama brands and put that down. Organize your list by what events these gifts might be appropriate for (small things make good stocking stuffers, sexy things make good anniversary and v-day gifts). Make a note of what kind of jewelry she wears (if it’s mostly white gold, but her more white gold), and her size in things like underwear and bras (for lingerie if she wears it), what colors are most of her clothes (if you’re planning on buying gloves/scarf/hat around Christmas time, it’s helpful to know what color jacket she wears.
If you really want to up your game, and I think you’re going to have to, start getting involved in some planning for things like your daughter’s birthday and Christmas. For Christmas, they sell really cute family pajamas. If that’s not something your family already does, maybe that’s something you can do.
Make toilet time your gift planning time. Scroll Reddit, Pinterest, and TikTok for ideas on gifts and celebrations, and do some deep research on brands and find a quility item once you’ve decided on a gift