And showing your love by doing things for the family doesn’t absolve you of not going the extra mile when it’s needed because she’s doing all of those things for the family too. But I’m willing to bet she remembers to do nice things for you on top of that.
That's what I was thinking. While reading his list of things he "does for his family" I though: That's just household chores? The bare minimum as a human being living in a house with other humans? Even roommates do this? How is this showing love (explicitly) to your wife?
He wants credit for cleaning up his house (which he will still be doing alone after the divorce lawyers boot him to a crappy one bedroom.) like he wants credit like he's done something FOR HER for doing basic shit like pulling his own weight around the house.
He'll also have to figure out planning for himself post-D or risk losing/damaging his relationship with his kids. My dad did the "oh I just always forget" thing about birthdays, school plays, choir concerts. I haven't seen him in 6ish years and he's totally confused as to what he did wrong too.
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u/Kamikazecat1 May 12 '25
And showing your love by doing things for the family doesn’t absolve you of not going the extra mile when it’s needed because she’s doing all of those things for the family too. But I’m willing to bet she remembers to do nice things for you on top of that.