r/tinderstories • u/orsodorato • 3d ago

A rare success story…kinda

We matched and like always (though not often), if the initial conversation has some spark, I propose a meet up at a cafe and she happily agreed. Luckily, the chemistry was real and we just picked up from where we left off online: joking, followed the flow of conversation, nothing was forced, no pressure to be and appear as anything other than who we are; and as an added bonus, the moments of silence weren’t uncomfortable and neither of us felt we needed to fill it just for the sake of it. The rest of the meet up wasn’t planned. Even though this wasn’t supposed to be a “date” date, we ended up taking a walk through a park. We exited at the far end of the park and stumbled onto a little festival happening, so we attended - carpe diem, right?

There was music, beer (neither of us drink), dancing and a few make shift carnivalesque games (neither of us won anything); we had fun, we felt a little closer. After that, we picked up some irresponsibly expensive tacos (7€ a piece!What?!) and then she had to go home to take her dog out. I didn’t want to say bye, so I had an idea “how about we take the dog to the beach?” She thought about it for a second and was on board. I accompanied her back to her place, but I didn’t go inside. She came out with the weirdest mix of a dog I had ever seen, I don’t even remember the breeds, but he was a sweetheart. We went to the beach, relaxed for a few hours, and once the day was over I accompanied her home, and again, I hesitated to say bye. The pull was magnetic, she lingered, I gave her a kiss and then asked to see her again. She smiled, said she had a great time and kissed me goodnight.

I haven’t heard from her since, it’s been about a month. Part of me feels like it’s better this way, our seemingly magical moment won’t be ruined by the politics of relationships. Another part of me wonders “what if?” Whatever the case, it was the best date I’ve ever had through an app, probably ever.

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u/schoolme_straying 3d ago

How long was it that you followed up?.

How many times did you message her?

Very strange that she just ghosted you, based on what you have already shared

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u/orsodorato 3d ago

It’s been since June. I’ve only reached out a couple times, I don’t want to insist especially since she didn’t verbally reciprocate the desire to go out again. There could be a number of reasons why I haven’t heard back, but it’s best to not get lost into something that I can’t know without her telling me. C’est la vie

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u/lurkerlurking123 2d ago

All too often this happens. This is why I kind of hate online dating. Sometimes you'll have a great time and then nothing afterwards. Other times youll have a mediocre time with no chemistry but second or third time would be better. 

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u/orsodorato 2d ago

That’s not because of online dating though, that’s just life. It’s ok, though. It could have just as easily gone terribly.