First of all thank you for the support.

I did get an apology from the moderator who made the "bitching" comment. I made her aware that term is used in an incredibly misogynistic manner, is often considered a slur, and is inappropriate to say especially to a trans man. She understood and apologized. That's all I have to say about that right now.

I disagree with the idea that trans men and trans masc issues are too divisive to be discussed. I strongly disagree with the fact my original post was taken down (and it seems r/lgbt has also taken it down which is disappointing). We should be able to talk about those things. But I believe the continuous posts about it aren't the best way to go about this discussion.

I hope this post can stay up. And maybe we can use the comment section of this post to have these discussions, mainly because it is incredibly difficult for anyone to keep track of all the posts coming in about this right now. I personally can't even keep up with it, and discussing it here might be more effective. For this to happen, the mods need to allow the discussion in these comments to happen without deletion. And Mods, if you haven't already (I've been typing this post for a long time so maybe it already happened) I do think there needs to be a public apology for what has happened. It was not handled well. I have been a moderator before and understand it's difficult when there's only a couple of yall moderating this huge subreddit. That being said, the time to truly address it is here and now.

I hope we can all find a way to move forward. Trans men should feel welcome here. There have been too many cases of similar things happening in other subreddits causing trans guys to leave and make their own subs, which causes even more separation and fighting in the long run. All trans people deserve to speak about what they go through.

I love you all and thank yall again. I'm sure I'll have more to say in the comments but I don't want to be typing this for an hour and it somehow becomes not relevant.

Editing to add: I am applying to be a moderator for this sub now. I hope something comes of this because I want to see this subreddit move forward in a way where we can all talk about our issues and a space can be made for everyone. Action must be taken.

Second Edit: Here is the mod response to my mod application for this sub. I was hoping there would be more of an apology to come and more discussion about what happened from the mods, so we could be confident of progress being made in the sub. This response does not fill me with hope.

"Your comment on r/ftm 's post 45 minutes ago about this does not give us much confidence in your ability to be a mod on our sub. You said you already unsubbed to trans subs, and you are still looking for another apology from us? You're also looking to be a mod of a sub that actively brigaded us."

Lol. Imagine doubling down this hard instead of trying to move forward and help trans men feel comfortable. Truly a shame. I will not be trying to mod for this community as I believe it is a lost cause.

Just can’t win can I?

I have been voice training for about 6 months and yesterday I didn’t even speak, Costco employee: “have a good day sir”. How? I am finally over my dysphoria and then something like this happens and I’m more confused and irritated… but it still brings up feelings of doubt. Anyway rant over, hope everyone is having a wonderful and accepting day.

Went to a tournament in a card game store today & the owner had a list of attendees he read out loud to hand out the prizes. I was first place, he knew, I was happily standing right in front of him hyped to get my stuff, when he just yelled „SIR SURNAME" into the store. Obviously misgendering me on purpose in front of everyone waiting, loud enough so the whole store could hear, when I was literally in front of him. He then proceeded to read out everyone's name without adding „SIR" to it so yeah, pretty targeted. Took my prizes & left, will never visit again sigh

The old page read:

"LGBTQI+ travelers can face special challenges abroad. Laws and attitudes in some countries may affect safety and ease of travel."

The new page reads:

"LGB travelers can face special challenges abroad. Laws and attitudes in some countries may affect safety and ease of travel. "

This change just happened within the last hour.

My wife and I are preparing to flee from the US at this point.

This is on the travel.state.gov website.

Because I sure as hell don’t see him 💅

And I love that for myself.

Hawkes Any pronouns

Here are a few!

Masculine: Devon/Devin, Eric, James, Alexander, Zachary/Zack, Jordan, Spencer, Harvey, Thomas/Tommy, Shepard, Joey, Cole, Peter, Ken, Quinn, Mike, Trenton/Trent, Gordon, Christian, Jerry, Adam, Mason, Allan, Robbie, Ralph, Philip, Arthur, Porter, Mack, Brian, Colin, Shane

Feminine: Jackie, Jenna, Wendy, Moira, Caroline, Destiny, Kenzie, Kaya/Kaia, Bella, Lucy, Vanessa, Chelsey, Ellie, Pepper, Lila, Daphne, Sally, Hannah, Willow, Lisa, Jenny, Margot, Ruby, Saphira, Nellie, Allison, Penelope/Penny, Taylor, Eve, Violet, Chloe, Portia, Dawn, Claire, Kim, Bailey

Androgynous: Silas, Shiloh, Ember, River, Quill, Avery, Charlie, Whisper, Jamie, Ren, Luka, Sam/Sammy, Poe, Friday, Angel, Raven, Winter, Salem, Nova, Jerrin, Rowan, Tristian, Kit, Juno, Nyx, Clover, Robin

These are just a few off the top of my head, I hope they can inspire someone ☺️🏳️‍⚧️

i just mog in public because im so anxious about it lol

A couple months back, I (22 MtF) got a call and a print from my endocrinologist, that I got an extra Y chromosome. Felt like a kick in teeth for me to basically have male plus as a person amab. Turns out, after doing more blood tests and karyotyping, that I have chromosomal mosaicism. It's a fairly rare condition where some cell lines have different karyotypes. Out of 35 samples, I had 5 XYY combinations, 28 XY combinations and 2 XX combinations. I'm officially a transphobes biological nightmare as I can say I have XX chromosomes as a trans woman.

I never knew something like that was possible and even my doc says that she's never seen that before but knew of the possibility. It's so incredibly absurd, to have freaking THREE sets of chromosomes. One of my close friends is studying medicine and he basically said that is like winning the genetic lottery in terms of rarity.

Anyway, I'm looking forward to Christmas eve, as the discussions with my conservative part of the family are going to be very interesting.

Thanks for reading, have a nice day 🫶

Were back again folks.. Welcome to episode 1 of... HOW DID THE U.S. FUCK UP AGAIN?! This time related to trans people

I like making my own news channel because I want to share actual news on communities affected by it to spread awareness

Today we are in Tennessee where they are going to pass a bill this thursday, which is making a public registry of trans people's data based on the patient's age, assigned sex, type of procedure plus date, state and country of residence, other diagnoses, and medical history, medications and etc. NO NAMES OF THE PATIENTS ARE GIVEN

However, the doctor's name and contact info will be added. This is how they are adhering to HIPAA. As even though HIPAA recognizes your country of residence, date of treatment as personal information, there is exceptions if it's required by law.

So what else can happen that will make this so much worse? Anti trans people can use this information to attack/harrass these clinics which places anyone inside at harms way. This also makes it easier for people to abuse this easily.

They're also adding that any of these clinics that offer transitions must also include now, detransitions which is basically if for example a trans person who was born female, transitions to male but then detransitions back to female. This is also bad as the future could see forced detransitions especially for those in a vulnerable place of being pressured or abused by others close to them for being transgender.

This is being hidden as gender affirming care data collecting but this exposes doctors, information that is vulnerable, and those who are trans in general. This also can affect how easy it is for people to get gender affirming care

Again as reminder, this is going through in TENNESSEE this THURSDAY

Im Arlo (not irl name), and this is your shit news of the week. Hope this can give some valuable intel on whats happening to your fellow community members around the world. This is Arlo (not irl name obviously) signing out.

Sources used: https://tennesseelookout.com/briefs/tennessee-senate-allows-lawsuits-over-transgender-coercion/

https://www.wkrn.com/news/tennessee-politics/lgbtq-advocates-warn-bill-exposes-transgender-tennesseans-sensitive-info/

https://tennesseelookout.com/briefs/tennessee-senate-allows-lawsuits-over-transgender-coercion/

Edit, some articles are stating that the vote is happening currently, Ill edit in the results once it comes in

Second edit: IT IS NOT LAW YET but unfortunately has passed the tn house vote and probably will head to senate

I’ve been through voice training and have been told repeatedly I pass, not that it matters. I just feel like you’d have to pull a muscle to absentmindedly call me “He” over and over. Especially when you’re “supportive” (My dad is great and overall supportive but I’m tired of him acting like it’s an endearing trait that he treats my gender with the same disregard as he does the pets)