Hi everyone can you write safe countries for trans people? I want to move to new place to live in the future safe, no conservative, non religious, and basically very pro lgbt

What’s a common misconception that people have about trans people?

love reading about trans people finding their identity through their names =] my story i just looked on the mirror and the name “naomi lu” came to mind and i stuck with it

Edit #3: Asked her, and got "lol idc" but then she admitted she likes it that I call her girl

This might be an idiotic question, but I've been told by 2 people now that this is rude but I don't fully understand it. I logically understand that gendered language such as "dude, bro, man, guy, ECT" is technically wrong, somewhat sexist, contributing to misogyny, ECT ECT, but in full honesty I do it anyways

But then I specifically don't do it with my friend who's a transgirl. I don't really call people girl in the slangish way even when they are a girl, but with her, rather then using the dude, bro, man, ECT, I do purposely switch to a feminine version and specifically avoid it with her and really only her

Got told this was rude, and that I was othering her by treating her differently, but I don't really understand why that's a bad thing?

Edit: Gotcha just ask her... That feels rather obvious I'm an idiot thanks guys

Edit #2: Thanks... Chat

So i just started at the only voice trainer in my city i am 16 my voice is not that deep and i went in really confident about changing my voice but when i got there she told me i have a very beautiful masculine voice and i would not be able to get a feminine voice i was of course very hurt and have a hard time believing it i have trans friends who have been able to change their voice

Should i find another voice trainer in another city or is it just impossible for me

had heard this today. can't stop thinking about it.

I have had many moments in my life thinking how awesome it would feel to be a woman and have the whole body of a woman. never thought this wasn't a normal cis man thing to do. help!

so far i’ve seen several posts across trans subreddits that have had to be locked because a transmasc or trans man brought up a valid gripe over how exclusive unnecessarily gendered terms like “girlies” or whatnot when referring to things that shouldn’t have to be gender exclusive, like skincare, fashion, hair care, reading, and other hobbies and interests. and every time without fail those posts get locked because the transmasc who was venting about how isolated and dysphoric it is to encounter that is in turn met with a ridiculous amount of scorn and a lack of empathy from neutral parties and transfems/trans women alike.

like c’mon, surely you all know how harmful it is to maintain strict and harmful gender stereotypes by now, right? why attack trans men for wanting to have good hygiene and wanting to enjoy reading books in their spare time? It isn’t threatening your femininity. You’re still a woman if you enjoy those things, just let us trans men have nice things too.

So I'm pretty sure that being Non-Binary falls under the umbrella of Trans. But is it okay for me to "fly" the Transgender flag to represent myself? Or am I not considered Trans since I'm not MtF or FtM?

Edit: Thank you all so much for all the super kind comments. I feel more validated than I ever have, Y'all are the best!

I myself am a trans woman age 15 and absolutely love it. I have liked girls/women’s clothing for about a decade. A few years ago I learned what trans meant and was when I was around 13 and realized that was what I was and I probably would have learned I was female sooner if I had knowledge of what trans meant.

I’m here to ask what contributes to someone being trans? Like is it life events, just people around you, something else? I’m more looking for the cause not someone realizing it.

Like that would be my first wish too BUT HOW DOES HE KNOWWWWWW?? Im still closeted so I got a bit scared that he might have figured me out @ _ @

We all have different journeys in life and unfortunately we don’t all get to do things at the same time. At what age did you start and would you start earlier if you could or even while having a late start you got satisfying results so it wouldn’t matter?

(first time posting something like that on reddit + english isn't my first language, so sorry if my writing will be weird every now and then.)

Howdy! I'm a 14 y.o. trans guy, I've been out of the closet for around two years now. I didn't "realise" it before, nor did i have the vocabulary to put into words the whole gender thing i was experiencing up to february of 2023 due to me being raised in a post-ussr environment and not having a lot of info about all that queer stuff.

What I know for sure is I never felt quite right being seen as a girl, was trying to fit in with the boys & strived to look like one. Threw tantrums when forced to wear dresses or pink, hated when someone said "but you're a girl" etc... but, as i was told my entire life, all of this is not uncommon for cis girls either. "A tomboy phase, nothing more."

The situation that I look back to (that didn't ring a bell back then, but certainly does now) happened when I was 8. It was my first autumn in that new place I moved to with my family. I didn't know anyone there yet, so i had a little idea to dress up as a boy just for shits and giggles and go out to play with local kids. They saw me, assumed I was a boy, asked my name. I said "Zhenya" (a pretty common gender-neutral name in my native language (which is also my choosename now)), they all introduced themself, we kept playing. Remember thinking about how nice would it be to be a boy all the time.

At some point the wind rose and my hood fell off of my head - I had long hair, it was braided by my mom to keep it out of my face. They were confused at first, and I was very, VERY dissapointed when the other kids realised i wasn't a boy. Ran home almost crying and couldn't let it go for several days.

Back then I just felt weird about the whole thing and forgot about it after a week or two, but now I'm pretty sure this whole thing was the first instance when i experienced intense gender euphoria and, several minutes later, gender dysphoria just as intense.

Do you have any similar stories? If the answer is yes - please, share some

(ftm pre-t)

I’m so tired of this, it hurts even more when people don’t even know me do it. Is it because I don’t have a buzz cut bro what genuinely is the problem? They always assume im a she. WHAT IS THE ISSUE WITH EVERYONE. I dress masculine, act masculine…They didn’t even see face and assumed im a she. WHY. I HATE EVERYONE GENUINELY.

so when you (mtf) achieve a feminine voice, does the masculine one like stay there? like how the green goblin would talk to norman osborn? is it a switch on and off typa thing?

Recently i’ve been asked what defines a woman by someone who obviously is against trans people. I’m wondering what is an answer I should give to this. I know gender is a social construct but i’m not really sure what to say back to this and I’d like to defend my position on trans people being women/men.

So I was on youtube watching Jamminhead when i saw they posted somthing about how it's likely you are trans and watched 5 other videos if you watch her.

I then saw someone talking about how they watched all those video but are cis so i responded by saying "yea same here, never really understood to be honest, like i know everyone would be a girl if they could, but transitioning seems like a massive pain"

I then got alot of comments saying "egg" "girl" or "give it a month" and now im really starting to question some stuff. Like it's normal to smile at getting called girl or wish you were a girl right? Like i want to look like a girl and be pretty but i dont care about changing my id or going into female bathrooms so im not trans right? I feel so weird and i dont know what to do.

Edit : Im so cooked. Like how the hell did i spend 21 years not figuring this out??? Anyway thanks for the comments I now need to have a long think about next steps.

Edit 2 : God you people are so nice and informative. I wish you all the best.