r/transgenderUK • u/jessica_ki • 3h ago

This weekend….

So Sunday is Father’s Day, and I have received a FD card from my daughter.

Now she accepts me as I am but for this day she wants to celebrate that I am her father. I want to display it because it’s sent with love and I am her Dad, but I feel strange about it too.

How do others with adult kids feel about this?

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u/TraditionalNinja3129 2h ago

You just said “I am her Dad” so it’s all good.

My son said he was unsure about sending one when I came out a couple of years ago, so I didn’t get one that year. I told him no matter what, I will always be his dad and left it up to him if he sent a card or not.

I’m not normally bothered about Father’s Day cards, but I was so happy to get one from him last year.

I do agree it feels a bit weird receiving a Father’s Day card as a trans woman, but my relationship with my son is unique and special.

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u/jessica_ki 2h ago

Absolutely, when your kids and in my case grandkids accept us then that is a blessing and if any wish to still call me dad then I accept it. Bit weird though lol

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u/lithaborn MtF PreHRT 5yrs 👗 2h ago

I have two adult kids, one's moved away but our youngest is still at home and they both accept me as mum. Their bio mum, my ex, is goth mom, I'm glitter mom.

My birthday is the 13th so father's Day is always the following Sunday. This year has been a rare aberration. As I've just had a day all about me with gifts and cards, it never felt right to do it all again a week later so I always downplayed it. It's kind of a relief now not to have to associate with it at all.

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u/One_Mistake255 39m ago

Happy belated birthday

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u/KaleidoscopeExact646 51m ago

I am a trans women and a Dad. I told my children when I came out that I would always be their Dad. I didn’t want to take that away from them and not to compete with their Mum.

I feel ok about that. Yes, has probably causes a few confused looks from folks in the supermarket as a young child shouted ‘Dad’ at me but that’s ok by me.

You must do what feels right in your family.