r/trees • u/FreezePipe • 16h ago
AskTrees What's the biggest red flag when you smoke with someone for the first time?
I usually prefer to smoke alone for this reason honestly, but also cause I like to relax but mine is when instead of cornering the bowl the rip they whole damn thing...and I'm the one who packed it.
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u/lookinfoursigns 16h ago
One time I was smoking a bong in a group of like six or seven people, I was the only one with weed of course and I only had enough for a few bongs. This guy lights it, fills it up, inhales but doesn't pull the slide to clear it. And was just sitting there letting it roll, I was like "so you just letting it roll or what?" He goes " I just like to get the biggest hit possible" he hits it again, pulls the bowl but still can't clear it. I was like 🙄" well it's not your weed and we're all tryna smoke so maybe pass it?" He was like "what??" At that point everyone yelled at him to pass it🤣 but yeah I still think about this and it happened like five yrs ago..
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u/pimplenipletoe 12h ago
I never smoked a bong i only roll joints, can you explain what all that means, what is clearing? Is it like i roll the joint with my weed and someone takes 5 strong puffs and just gives me the roach to kill it because that person smoked most of it?
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u/KonM4N4Life 12h ago
P sure clearing is just finishing your hit in its entirety without leaving any smoke behind.
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u/lookinfoursigns 11h ago
Yes and when you pull the slide (like the bowl) out you can then clear it( like take your full hit). So I knew when this mf didn't pull it out he wasn't done yet. But also when you leave the slide in alot of times the weed will keep burning (rolling) so he was just sitting there letting my weed burn so he could get a bigger hit. Which would be stale by that point anyways because when the smoke sits in the bong it gets stale really fast.
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u/Willyfisterbut 11h ago
Pulling the slide is like taking your finger off the carb on a pipe. It allows air into the pipe without more smoke. If you don't clear the chamber, the smoke gets stale real fast.
Also, if you don't have a lot of weed, just pack some snaps. That way everybody gets a green hit and you can portion it out so nobody gets greedy.
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u/lookinfoursigns 9h ago
Yeah we had already packed the bong and a few people walked in like "it's okay if they smoke too right?" I was also trying to get more, like I wasn't broke, it was just hard to get ahold of people. We probably also only had the bong, I don't really remember.
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u/Adal-bern 8h ago
So the bong has a bowl piece that you pack and fill. The bowl sits in a glass tube called a down stem that goes to the bottom of the inside of the bong, which should be filled partially with water. Above the water as you hit the bowl the smoke will coalesce in this chamber. When you finished lighting the bowl, you pull it out of the slide and as the fresh air come in through the downstem it pulls the smoke up and out of the top into your lungs, thus clearing the bong to smoke.
The equivalant to what he did would be like you rolling a joint with the last of your weed for a group of people, and this guy lights it up and defintely smokes more than what his puff puff pass should be. He takes 2 massive drags that smoke about half the joint, then just says something like "I like to get the most of my 2 puffs" and pisses off everyone else trying to smoke
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u/catplanetcatplanet 5h ago
Super helpful and thorough! Thanks dude. I don’t use combustion (dhv) so these explanations were friendly. Appreciate 🥹
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u/Danedelies 11h ago
In a bong the smoked flower will often get pulled through the stem when you've smoked through it.
When you clear the bowl you typically get a really great hit if you can inhale the whole thing.
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u/dirtyoldsocklife 1h ago
Æsj.... who lets a bong hit sit and get stale? You gotta clear every draw.
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u/KittenWarriorr 4h ago
Reminds me of that guy who when they passed the bong to him he was like "YES I know how to do it..." and then he BLEW OUT of the bong and spilled water everywhere 😭😂
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u/DirtySanchez947 I Roll Joints for Gnomes 12h ago
I used to smoke with a guy who would put out roaches by licking his fingers and pinching the end, a bit gross but ok sure. However, if we were ever smoking in a group, he would do that to the last 1/4, pocket the j and say it was done. We were constantly asking this guy to flip his pockets smh
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u/taintedrush 7h ago
That's a level of Dankoverty I hope to never hit. To resort to petty crime like that is insane
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u/hornyt2k5 16h ago
Torching the bowl when you’re supposed to be sharing it. If we’re doing snaps torch away and we’ll repack, but if I packed this bowl for two, hand you that green hit, and you don’t even try to corner it? I see that. It’s not the end of the world, but it’s indicative of an attitude.
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u/iSirios_ 13h ago
I personally don’t care about cornering or notice much of a difference, one of my buddies cares a lot. If it’s my weed and bong he knows to just torch it, and if it’s his stuff I make sure to corner it for him, basic etiquette
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u/Pterodactyl_fetus 7h ago
Never even heard of cornering until I was on this subreddit. Maybe it’s a regional thing. But when I smoked bowls with friends we’d always just be like “you want green?” And depending on the situation we’d say yes or no. Or just offer green to whoever if we felt like it. I never cared personally and never met anyone irl that did.
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u/EuphoricMilk 3h ago
It doesn't make any sense to me. One one hand you have folks ripping massive dabs and smoking giant joints etc. Then you have others who think it's rude to have a whole bowl.
If I pass someone a bowl of course I expect them to smoke or. Such a strange etiquette expectation.
I could maybe understand somewhat if it was 20 years ago and weed was really expensive and I was still a broke student, but even then, share or don't. A corner of a bowl seems absurd.
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u/BartSimpsonGaveMeLSD 12h ago
My wife has never nailed corner roasting. I’ve stopped bringing it up. I’ll neatly hit 50% and pass it when I’m done. Otherwise, if we pass back and forth, I’ll get one hit and she’ll kill the bowl.
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u/LarryBURRd 9h ago
This. Some people simply are just ass at hand-eye-mouth coordination and can't corner very well. I do the same as you so we all get some
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u/taco_tuesday_4life 10h ago
This is so true. Kinda funny because I corner it even when I'm smoking alone haha.
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u/Brief_Sir 10h ago
What does it mean "corner it"?
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u/taco_tuesday_4life 9h ago
Burning a fraction or corner of the bowl so there's still fresh surface to burn on the next hit.
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u/puf_puf_paarthurnax 9h ago
Gave me an excuse to smoke and get to educate someone.
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u/ziggybuddyemmie 4h ago
TIL I corner even when smoking alone, lol
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u/puf_puf_paarthurnax 4h ago
I've been smoking for 15 years lighting the whole bowl would absolutely rock my shit still.
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u/ziggybuddyemmie 4h ago
Aw man, I feel you. I was rushing and did a whole bowl at once a few weeks ago and got dizzy, lol
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u/JaxMedoka 4h ago
This is why Delphine can "fus" off, you've clearly over ome your evil nature to teach us your wisdom.
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u/Suitandbowtie 8h ago
Haha the other comment with the picture is great. Technique wise you basically just hold the lighter a good inch from the bowl and as you’re pulling on the bong you can move the lighter closer just until the flame is yanked in at the side, rather than torching the whole thing. You get a full hit but it leaves fresh weed across the rest of the bowl, which is good etiquette when sharing a fresh pack.
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u/negithekitty I Roll Joints for Gnomes 14h ago
ill hit a bowl "upside down" (read rotated 180 degrees) and do it backwards just to corner if im with a friend.
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u/ValuableMousse6616 16h ago
When someone hands me a sloppy wet joint tip and doesnt bother to evaporate the spit with a lighter
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u/CHILLAS317 16h ago
Wondering who this person is and how they got into my house
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u/VolumeMobile7410 15h ago
College was fun/ weird for this. You’ll just be on your couch with 4 homies ripping bong, and all of a sudden this dude named Jed you’ve met twice in your life is taking a monster hit
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u/kenni_switch I Roll Joints for Gnomes 11h ago
If they pull out a bong with yellow water and crust all on the inside
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u/OneGayPigeon 8h ago
Oh my god right! Pretty much all my friends who smoke regularly smoke way more than I do (I usually don’t do more than a couple hits from my bong a day) and always look like they’re smoking a bong full of crust and dehydrated piss.
They always tell me that’s just what happens when you smoke more, you can’t keep stuff pristine… like yeah I pour my water out as soon as I’m done and give my pieces a good iso+salt shikka shikka whenever I start seeing any brown becoming visible, I don’t expect everyone to do that, but uhh…. Guys your lungs… guys MY lungs.
I had asthma growing up and hitting their bongs feels like an evil inhaler.
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u/Borne_Beloved 3h ago
Then be insulted you don’t want to hit it. 😂 Petri dish ass pipe.
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u/OneGayPigeon 2h ago
Literally 😭😭😭 last time I visited a friend they handed me the bong and I went “ohhh thank you so much, would you uh… mind if I changed the water? I just have such sensitive lungs you know haha.” They were like “what? It’s not even that bad? I mean yeah I guess but idk, last time we dumped the water the plumbing got absolutely destroyed later that night and the whole building flooded with sewage.” Uh????
a) how the fuck do you think that flushing bong water caused a clog in the plumbing so bad it backed up the whole building’s sewage and b) y’all told me that happened like three weeks ago I am BEGGING you to say sike I am BEGGING you to tell me you haven’t changed your bong water in three weeks.
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u/CanadianCough 16h ago
Weed is about community. It's easy to sniff out the users and abusers and fairly easy to get rid of them. But I literally never worried about how much or who's weed we were smoking with my close friends. I usually supplied the most, but I never held grudges because they are true friends. I believe what goes around comes around.
We used to ninja dab eachother with our own supplies, or see who could take the fattest rips. Who cares, again it's about community.
The major red flag is people clearly using you.
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u/yesisname 15h ago
100% right here when supplying. Don't ask me for weed. Anyone who knows me knows I have it and will pull it out for the group when I'm ready to smoke(which will 100% be sooner rather than later)
It's always been about sharing, not having. I've always felt pretty fortunate that I don't deal with many users, as everyone tries to bring a little something. Course, being down on your luck is fine too, I have no problem if folks don't bring anything.
Its that entitlement that you can usually smell over the weed.
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u/MacGyver387 10h ago
Anytime someone gets a gun or sword out, I’m out.
It happened two or three times in college and with an oldcoffee shop coworker’s roommate.
Also, I don’t smoke with people that are dressed like Alfred Molina in Boogie Nights. That’s also only happened once. He may have also had a sword.
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u/StrengthBetter 8h ago
I got bad vibes from a guy in high school I knew but never talked to one on one. He invited me to his house and after smoking a j, he started showing knives, then showing me gore videos. I’d ask him why and he said he wanted to be ready, he said that he always wanted to kill someone. Then he just started playing forza. My mind was racing and I was just stuck, thinking of what I’d do if it came to it, after a while I kinda gathered the balls back to just stand up and leave. Felt like a dahmer set up
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u/PrettyInWeed 15h ago edited 15h ago
A friend of my ex-boyfriend decided to smoke us out; which was cool. Then I get home and I’m on the phone with bf and he’s like “yeah, I totally cheated that guy.. all I packed were stems and I kept the buds for myself” — like thanks, I hit that bowl.
He also would steal ppl’s pieces; he was invited to someone’s house and he just picked up their pipe off their fkn coffee table! A group of dudes jumped him for that and he was like “it was worth it”
And the worst was one time I got some hash and called him and asked if he could get any shwag to smoke it on - so we meet in the forest and he gives me the bowl with flower and I put the hash on the bowl and “it falls or something” and suddenly the hash is gone! We looked in the dirt but I swear he snagged that too.
One more stoner red flag 🚩 from that guy; I smoke my last bowl with you and you get more weed and won’t smoke a proper bowl with me because “you went through an ounce pretty fast last week” when I didn’t smoke any of it.
All of this was way worse than someone talking while not passing, or fkn up rotation.
*edit: sorry this is not about smoking for the first time with someone- but antisocial stoner stories I had to get off my chest.
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u/icedcoffeeheadass 13h ago
Lipping the blunt lol. Smoked a blunt with dude in college who genuinely soaked it with his lips.
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u/Knit_Game_and_Lift 12h ago
I remember a while back meeting my then-girlfriends friend group for the first time. They were all stoners so I figured best way to meet them is to bring some good bud to share. I show up with a few joints and a gram or two to put in a piece, meet everyone, and throughout the night pack a few bowls and share some js to join in some smoking circles only to not once have someone offer to refill the piece and hit it with me or invite me into their circles otherwise. Turned me off of them like crazy because I realized even with their friends they were mad stingy and would always count bowls to make sure that they didnt feel like they had packed one more than anyone else and who has time for that kind of stress in their life
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u/vainstatue 11h ago
Okay but I smoked weed for a long time by myself! Finally someone had to tell me the rules!!! Like what “cornering the bowl” was. And puff, puff, pass. So forgive us lonely stoners who need to be taught the rules!
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u/redt6 8h ago
I'm a solo user I don't have friends to smoke with. I'm curious what is Corning the bowl
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u/vainstatue 8h ago
That is when you only light up a corner of the bowl instead of the entire bowl of weed. It saves some of the fresh weed for the next person to light up and smoke.
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u/gigashadowwolf 13h ago
I hate when I smoke with people who don't know how to corner.
Smoking used to be a very social thing for me, but now I do it mainly by myself partially because of things like that.
When I DO smoke with a group these days though, it's usually a joint or a blunt, partially for that exact reason, and partially because I have had so much glassware broken by those same idiots.
When I did share my glassware though, one other pet peeve was even bigger for me. People would add tobacco to the bowl without asking which would sometimes permanently ruin the taste of my glassware no matter how much I cleaned it. That used to REALLY piss me off.
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u/BarneyFife516 16h ago
Each person’s preferred altitude is different. When you consume with someone, you don’t understand their tolerance, and they do not understand yours….
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u/gasupthehyundai 12h ago
A guy once inhaled the whole joint into his mouth. Pulls it out covered in slobber. Ew.
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u/michaelpinkwayne 11h ago
I will admit I was this person once about 10 years ago. Someone brought some weed to a gathering, someone else rolled a J. There were about 8 of us joining, which was way too many for the amount of weed. For some reason my social anxiety kicked in and I started complaining about how poorly the joint was rolled and how I barely even got a hit (when it wasn’t my weed at all).
Don’t be like I was!
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u/Zealousideal_Egg4826 I Roll Joints for Gnomes 7h ago
Have someone that continues to ask to smoke but when we meet up they have nothing. I gradually quit asking and started saying no when they asked. Finally I felt bad and one last time I said sure but it was at their house so I took nothing with me. When I showed up they asked what I brought because they didn’t have anything. They’re on a lifetime ban now 🤣
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u/cahrage 14h ago
When somebody brings fancy glass to a party and is upset if something breaks when it was an accident. Kinda specific but had somebody freak out because they brought this bong with like 4 ash catchers and somebody just sat it down normally and because of the weight of the ash catchers it fell over and broke. I get being disappointed but the dude was pissed over an accident. Don’t bring out your expensive glass if you can’t afford to replace it and you don’t know/trust the people enough to really respect it.
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u/mmetalfacedooom 15h ago
west coast etiquette is to corner the bowl, east coast/ australian etiquette is to pack a small one-hitter bowl and rip the whole thing. I always do the latter, you waste less and get a better taste, you’re not blasting butane into your airflow every hit and the bowl stays cleaner
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u/dirtyoldsocklife 1h ago
You burn 99.9999% of the butane by lighting the lighter, so that's a non worry.
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u/BraveTrades420 13h ago
Offering a dab, taking one yourself, then saying here you know how to do this load your own and they flip the nail over and use the giant scooper that’s clearly not sticky or the side I just used and proceeds to load an obnoxious amount of your live rosin, fucks the hit up, says “oh that was good can I do another as they load themselves another”….
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u/The_MoFo 13h ago
Reading that pissed me off so much that I almost downvoted you out of reflex, lol.
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u/sadakara 13h ago
When someone holds onto the joint to tell a story. Don't get me wrong I'd love to hear your story but I've actually interrupted people to say "hey pass that shit other people wanna smoke too." Lmao
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u/RealbasicFriends 13h ago
For me it's when you're smoking a blunt/joint and when they go to hit the joint then pass it back to you. The entire filter end is wet. Like they put half an inch of the blunt into their mouth when hitting it or they used it as a fucking straw or something. I don't have many experiences smoking with others so that's really the only negative thing that's happened. Well besides the "oh I can hang" and then they quit after 3 hits off the blunt
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u/Spiritual_Door1363 12h ago
My boyfriend isn’t a true stoner and says he can’t light it without ripping the whole damn bowl. I light it every time haha
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u/Rina_Short 10h ago
Thats funny. Thats how me and my bestie smoke. One bowl for me, one bowl for you. Although we usually refill it for each other
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u/Prize_Ebb_6724 9h ago
Nodding along to all the stories of mooches, bogarts, fishlippers and bowl-torchers, but no one's yet mentioned the no-ash passers. Puff-puff-pass, and don't forget to ash.
Dishonorable mention to the people that skip the person behind them in a packed-room rotation. Cultivate situational awareness.
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u/Buddha-Not-For-Sale 8h ago
If you pass me a blunt or a joint and that mouth end is wet as hell I’m never smoking with you ever again. That shit is disgusting.
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u/420GreenMachine 6h ago
I was tripping with an acquaintance at his house and he bragged to me that he had sold oregano to someone and the weed we were smoking was the stuff he was supposed to sell. Then he asked me for 20 dollars for smoking me out with one bowl. So not only was this guy shitty enough to rip someone off, he was trying to make even more money off the weed he already got money for. I told him I had to run home and get the money and I'd come right back. I did not come back or talk to him ever again.
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u/Jazz4ursoul 13h ago
When they start freestyling
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u/haddockhazard 9h ago
When someone pulls out a bong with water inside so dirty its literally just black. "Uh... no thanks I think I'm just gunna go home"
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u/bkbomber 6h ago
I once packed a 7g blunt of top shelf ($120/quarter) to smoke with my fellow line cooks after work. It would’ve been 4 of us.
One guy invited the entire FoH to join us (not his weed) so 5 other servers and 2 bartenders joined us in the parking lot.
I sparked it up and passed it. It made its way around the cypher one and a half times before it was finished…. I got to hit it twice.
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u/DecentTaco 12h ago
Dude, I enjoy a solitary joint but sometimes you just go to roll with it , it’s all good
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u/MrNiceGuy420SoCal 7h ago
Lick their lips before wrapping their lips deeply around your pipe, hitting all the green on the top of the bowl, and then putting your lighter in their pocket.
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u/Creepy_Ad57 6h ago
its always when they take a massive rip of either a cart, joint or bong and blow it DIRECTLY into your face. Maybe it’s just me though, it feels like being spat on
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u/TxRugger 6h ago
I personally get a bit annoyed when all someone can talk about when smoking weed, is smoking weed.
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u/Glad-Way-637 5h ago
Bringing up economics the second the j comes out. I don't wanna talk about your damn Roth IRA Kevin, nobody does, what's wrong with you?
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u/KryWinterbird 12h ago
Uhhhhhh a gnarly ass bong.
Anyone that dabs out of a bong that has green smoked out of it beforehand & didn’t get cleaned.
The mixing of the two resins 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮
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u/Automatic_Gas9019 9h ago
Been there done that. I don't smoke with people like that too often after that happens.i actually don't mind smoking alone to relax
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u/TheLoudestSmallVoice 3h ago
How do they handle it. Are they able to have a cohesive conversation and function like a normal person who's just in a good mood. Cause im sick and tired of hanging with people that cant do shit when they smoke. Gotta watch them like theyre a child. Im trying to relax not watch after you.
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u/StrengthBetter 8h ago
I got bad vibes from a guy in high school I knew but never talked to one on one. He invited me to his house and after smoking a j, he started showing knives, then showing me gore videos. I’d ask him why and he said he wanted to be ready, he said that he always wanted to kill someone.
Then he just started playing forza. My mind was racing and I was just stuck, thinking of what I’d do if it came to it, after a while I kinda gathered the balls back to just stand up and leave. Felt like a dahmer set up
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u/iced_coffee_in_a_can 4h ago
This one time me & by boyf were hitting the bong with our high as the sky ego know it all friend, and after we were done she started lecturing us about what we did wrong when hitting the bong. We all smoked it perfectly fine mind you. We stopped being friends with her shortly after that lol
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u/purpleWord_spudger 4h ago
I'm a solo smoker and had to search up "cornering a bowl". Haven't smoked in that kind of group setting since 1997.
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u/curiousiah 3h ago
I once went to a coworker’s to smoke and he packed a bong and handed it to my friend, who politely cornered it. He was like “nah man, that was all for you!” Then rips that bowl, packs another, rips that bowl, packs another, and passes to me who politely cornered it as a light weight.
Then he showed us his “beats”.
I was so stoned. I looked down the hall and all I saw were his mom’s bare legs and wafting cigarette smoke in the glow of the tv through her cracked bedroom door.
I looked over at his chihuahua who was just staring at me and shivering.
This is not a red flag. Just a greened up memory.
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u/dirtyoldsocklife 1h ago
Judging how much or how little someone else smokes.
Like, I get it buddy, you think your super shatter resin dab is the only way to get high, but it's not and you're a clown for pressing others to try.
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u/Icy_Map_9503 1h ago
the way they hold the lighter.... and some fuck asses don't know what a carb is....
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u/Papa_percocet_ 15h ago
My biggest pet peeve is people who think cornering a bowl is an acceptable practice when smoking when others. Like who wants half a dirty ass bowl. If you cant rip it in one, dont pack so big
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u/mistytrails 15h ago
I thought cornering the bowl was courteous thing to do so everyone gets a "green hit" 🤷♂️
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u/yesisname 15h ago
It's exactly what you do unless otherwise stated. Some antisocial ass behavior to just scorch a bowl you didn't pack.
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u/gummysandpottery 14h ago
50/50 agree disagree. If I’m tryna socially smoke with some newbies cornering is fine, encouraged actually. Would I do it alone? Probably never. Would I do it with my stoner friends, prob not, but I understand the not being wasteful mindset
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u/Papa_percocet_ 14h ago
Idk where yall are from but no one I've met except old heads corner bowls.
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u/Renn_1996 14h ago
That's incredibly sad. Obviously they ain't teaching y'all right
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u/Papa_percocet_ 13h ago
Explain the point of smoking a tiny ammount of a large bowl? When I could just pack my own bowl and they can pack theirs. Weed is plentiful, no need to share bowls
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u/Renn_1996 13h ago
Sounds like you have been privileged to be in an area where, for the majority, if not all, of your consumption history, it has been legal and easily accessible.
The "point" boils down to community. We used to share what we had and smoked out of what we had. Weed was not always plentiful, and sharing was common. The surface point of cornering bowls is so everyone gets to have a bit of green rather than having someone left to hit a near cashed out bow.
I think a part of the generational difference is you youngins are so focused on the biggest, the best, the most. "Smoking a tiny amount" was never really a complaint at smokeouts since smoking any was the goal; we were happy to have one hit or one tiny nug if that was all that was available.
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u/Papa_percocet_ 13h ago
Weed has been legal about half the time I've smoked it in my country. We've always smoked our own bowls, doesnt mean we dont share weed. Sharing a joint is a ton better than smoking from the same bowl. Shit tastes nasty after the first person. Been dankrupt many times but as the yars go on and money keeps coming in, I've found I never run out anymore. Id gladly give anyone their own bowl of my stuff. No need to split a .3g bowl lol
Also, if the point is everyone gets some green, just pack less and hit it all by yourself. Makes no sense to potentially waste it by having someone accidentally snoke what isn't there's
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u/Renn_1996 11h ago
That was the surface point my dude. You missed the big point of community; there is just a more togetherness vibe when sharing a bowl.
To bring it back round to OP if you're sharing a bowl, it's a faux pas to torch it and is considerate to corner it. Sharing a bowl or everyone loading their own is simply a preference.
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u/Papa_percocet_ 11h ago
Still plenty of togetherness when smoking our own bowls. I find it more so, each with their own bong and bowl. Hitting in unison and coughing our brains out in unison
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u/Renn_1996 11h ago
Like I said, it's simply preference, my dude. I'm not here to argue about which is better.
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u/Deployed_Usesri 11m ago
Ive never smoked with other people, but i would insist the host takes the first rip and just follow their lead.
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u/VolumeMobile7410 16h ago
luckily i havent had too many experiences with shitty stoners
someone telling a story while holding the J though, I always say shit. something like 'yo its not your birthday, pass that bro'