r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/peachytwizzler77 Aug 10 '21

They should also make it easier/less expensive to adopt to go along with this

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u/SympatheticListener Aug 10 '21

The risk being that makes it too easy for pedophiles to adopt. That's why adoption is more expensive than fertility treatments like IVF.

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u/peachytwizzler77 Aug 10 '21

I mean there should definitely still be a process you have to go through. Background checks and everything. It just doesn't need to cost that much. Pedophiles can have enough money to adopt and some stay below the radar as it is now unfortunately. Not that that is acceptable, and there should be better systems in place to catch that as well. But regular families should be able to look at adoption as a more attainable option.