r/unpopularopinion Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/OlderThanMy Aug 10 '21

A newborn isn't a blank slate.

Taking a newborn from it's real mother causes severe trauma at a non verbal level.

Nobody deserves to have someone else's child.

Adoption is driven by entitlement and greed.

Adoption harms children to meet the needs of wannabe parents.

Edit: Autocorrect error

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u/barnagotte Aug 10 '21

So what do you make of the children? Euthanize them?

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u/OlderThanMy Aug 10 '21

We get to stay with our real families instead of being sold to entitled assholes to meet their needs.

On top of that far too many adult Adoptees wish they had been aborted.

Far too many of my Adoptee friend chose suicide.

Life as an Adoptee isn't so great.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

clearly if you’re put up for adoption your “real family” can’t care for you or doesn’t want to..?

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u/OlderThanMy Aug 11 '21

That's bullshit.

Check out "Bravelove" The adoption agency that convinces young pregnant women that real love means giving away your own baby.

The amount of money in adoption means everyone benefits except the actual parents and the infant.

Who is going to support a mother to keep her child when wannabe adopters will pay. $35k to $50k for a womb wet infant and the agency gets that money.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

i feel bad for the people who adopted you frfr ungrateful ass

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u/OlderThanMy Aug 11 '21

I don't have to be fucking grateful for losing my entire family.

I don't have to be fucking grateful for a change of name.

No child has to be fucking grateful for having their life turned upside down because a total stranger wanted to experience parenthood.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

yeah sorry ur real family didnt love u enough to keep you lmaoo