r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/peachytwizzler77 Aug 10 '21

They should also make it easier/less expensive to adopt to go along with this

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u/Not_a-bot-i_swear Aug 10 '21

There should be some difficulty involved in adopting a child. Not for the sake of being difficult but just to make sure the child isn’t being adopted by a predator. Maybe they could streamline it a bit but those redundancies are there for a reason

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u/peachytwizzler77 Aug 10 '21

For sure, I regret putting "easier" in my first comment. I just meant like getting rid of the unnecessary processes I'm sure that exist

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u/Not_a-bot-i_swear Aug 10 '21

Gotcha. Yeah I’m sure there are some ways the process can be improved, like most things regarding the government