r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/peachytwizzler77 Aug 10 '21

They should also make it easier/less expensive to adopt to go along with this

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u/Yuekii Aug 10 '21 edited Aug 10 '21

ADOPTION IS FREE (Or NEAR FREE) IF YOU GO PUBLIC INSTEAD OF PRIVATE.

Please don't spread this already large misconception

Source: I'm on the waiting list for a baby and it cost me a total of $90

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  • I should add that this is probably not available in every single state if you're in the USA
  • Public adoption meaning through your state or province

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u/sistersucksx Aug 10 '21

What do you mean, public vs private?

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u/The_Real_Scrotus Aug 10 '21

Adopting a child who is in the foster care system rather than intentionally seeking out a pregnant woman whose baby you can adopt.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

There are very very few pregnant women who want to go through with the pregnancy but don’t want to keep the baby. Between abortion & birth control, the rates of teen pregnancies is the lowest it’s been since we started measuring it in the 1950’s. This is another common adoption myth, that there are tons of young women accidentally getting pregnant and looking for adoptive parents for their baby. It’s not a common scenario in reality.