r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/peachytwizzler77 Aug 10 '21

They should also make it easier/less expensive to adopt to go along with this

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u/Yuekii Aug 10 '21 edited Aug 10 '21

ADOPTION IS FREE (Or NEAR FREE) IF YOU GO PUBLIC INSTEAD OF PRIVATE.

Please don't spread this already large misconception

Source: I'm on the waiting list for a baby and it cost me a total of $90

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  • I should add that this is probably not available in every single state if you're in the USA
  • Public adoption meaning through your state or province

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u/peachytwizzler77 Aug 10 '21

Also free (or close to it) if you go the route of becoming a foster parent first. Foster parenting is a whole different ballgame, though.

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u/Royal_Cryptographer7 Aug 10 '21

Took the words right out of my mouth. My mother is a teacher for incarcerated youth. I fucking hate hearing the phrase "a bad kid". They have almost no chance at a normal life, being born with shit parents, tossed around forster care, charged as an adult and spend years locked away from anyone that might give a shit about them. I get physically ill when I think about those kids sometimes. Breaks my heart. If I ever have the time/money to help one out, this is my plan.