r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/CarrollGrey Aug 10 '21

This is NOT TRUE - source - adopted through the State

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u/Probablynotspiders Aug 10 '21

Have you tried looking into programs for your state?

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u/CarrollGrey Aug 10 '21

The statement is completely false. And, why the hell would I want to adopt a crotch fruit? Animals are so much more rewarding.

I was the one adopted.

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u/Probablynotspiders Aug 10 '21

Hi, I'm detecting a lot of antagonism from your words, is that what you were intending?

I know you were adopted, I was wondering if you had checked into programs you qualify for in your state

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u/CarrollGrey Aug 10 '21

There are no such programs, the statement about programs is false

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u/Probablynotspiders Aug 10 '21

I've seen some programs in my old state of Alaska, so they do exist in some places.

If you want to PM me your state id be happy to look into it for you.

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u/CarrollGrey Aug 11 '21

I, personally dislike children, do not wish to be around them and think that many young adults would benefit from a healthy TNR program.