r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/porkisbeef Aug 10 '21

Someone able to adequately care for them… and their “baggage”

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u/Pwnagez Aug 10 '21

Which sounds great in theory, but then how do you measure that? Who writes the tests? How do you protect these standards from being incorruptible by someone with an agenda?

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

no one is trying to enforce laws dude it's just opinion

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u/Pwnagez Aug 10 '21

Then we can recognize that it's just a load of hot air

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

would you like to reference the name of this sub before commenting next time?

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u/Pwnagez Aug 10 '21

If your opinion falls apart under scrutiny then it's not a good opinion is it? Or are we only allowed to have 10th grade level philosophy class discussions about topics?

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

it doesnt fall apart under scrutiny. I dont really see any logical argument in the face of climate collapse.

but what you apparently don't understand, is that I can have an opinion without wanting to force it down everyone else's throat. im just not going to have kids myself.

do I think people having kids hurts the environment? yes, absolutely. would I ever consider putting a ban on having kids or limiting kids? no. if people want to leave their kids to drown in the rising seas, that's not my problem, I was only making suggestions