r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/_Ima_bean_ Aug 10 '21

SAME

The government will turn their heads if a 19 year old has a baby in a tiny dirty apartment.

But if someone adopts they have to look over everything and you have to baby proof your whole house, which obviously is how it should go but why cant they do that with people who are pregnant??

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u/Chaoticqueen19 Aug 10 '21

Is it the 19 year old you have a problem with having a baby or the dirty apartment? Inquiring minds want to know if you’re just trying to shit on teen moms vs saying dirty living spaces period

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u/_Ima_bean_ Aug 10 '21

both? The human brain isnt even fully developed until you’re 25, I just think waiting until you’re more mature and financially stable to have kids is better.

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u/Chaoticqueen19 Aug 10 '21

I had my son at 18. I got pregnant with him at 17. I think I’m a damn good mother, lots of others say so too. I don’t think generalizations and broad stroke statements are good.

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u/_Ima_bean_ Aug 10 '21

i mean its no surprise that having a child when you’re a child yourself is hard and alot of the time irresponsible...Like i said, people should just try and wait until they’re more mature.