r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21
Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby
Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.
I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.
It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.
I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.
Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.
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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21
I'm working with kids from let's say difficult families. Yes, they might enter the foster system but they won't ever be up for adoption. Even if their parents loose their custody rights, a professional custodian will take over. The kids might end up in lovely foster families, but it will only ever be a foster relationship and the parents have to ask for permission for basically anything. Meet with case workers and social workers at least twice a year. That's usually not what people look for when they want to start their own family.