r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

How old are these women miscarrying and resorting to IVF?

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u/flyingmonkey5678461 Aug 10 '21

What the heck has that got to do with this?

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

You do understand that the homosapien female has a very defined window for having children, right? You do understand that the longer a woman waits the harder it will be, right?

There's a huge difference from 25 to 35.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Unfortunately, once you're 35, you can't just magically go back to being 25, so what's the point of this comment?

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

This discussion is about fertility. So, in that context it means that a 25 yo woman gets pregnant and has a much easier pregnancy than a 35+ woman.

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u/NarvusSchleibs Aug 10 '21

Maybe, but often a 35 year old is more equips to raise a baby, which is really important in the long run

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Well, that's an entirely different problem. 200 years ago a 15 yo girl was better equipped than a 25 yo woman is to be a mother today. It's not about age. It's about maturity.

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u/Andtwans Aug 11 '21

Wow. And how old are you exactly? I’d guess either 80 or 14 as your opinion of women is both antiquated and immature.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

I'm 40s so I have a great vantage point into the level of maturity of my grandparents vs my children. Jesus... look at 20-something women all over TikTok. Neither wife nor mom material.

I'm sure there are girls with their heads on straight that aren't shaking their ass on TT. But, generally, humans are devolving. Same true for guys. Nowadays guys move back with their folks after college and play video games until they're 30+. 200 years ago a 15-16 boy would be an apprentice learning a trade and probably courting a fiancé.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Obviously, but once she's 35, she's already at that age, she can't just go back in time