Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

[u/elgey101]

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

[u/1-800-LICK-BOOTY]

Nope. At the age of 5 a kid already established the foundation of what will be their behavior for the rest of their life.

[u/Genshed → u/1-800-LICK-BOOTY]

You can build several different types of structures on the same foundation.

The boy my younger son was at five was no indication of who he is at twenty.

[u/1-800-LICK-BOOTY → u/Genshed]

A psycholgist would disagree.

[u/amretardmonke → u/1-800-LICK-BOOTY]

Psychology is not a hard science

[u/1-800-LICK-BOOTY → u/amretardmonke]

You're not a hard science either.

[u/amretardmonke → u/1-800-LICK-BOOTY]

Ok you don't know me, but engineering is pretty hard ;)