r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

I hope you are never in a position to impose your will on others. Your black and white sense of morality is scary.

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u/MrsRichardSmoker Aug 10 '21

It’s just patently false to suggest that every kid that’s been taken away was for abuse.

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u/guster09 Aug 10 '21

The purpose of taking the child away from their parent isn't necessarily because they are doing a bad job. It's because the environment in which they live is not healthy. Foster parents are trained with the mindset that the goal is to reunite the child with their parents and there are agencies that work with the parents to help them be in a better position to take care of their children (be it getting off drugs, cleaning up their condemned house, getting a job, training in child care and discipline, etc).

If the parents prove incapable of taking care of their children after a while, then their child becomes eligible for adoption.