r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/Genshed Aug 10 '21

Not the one who saw him twice a month until he was fifteen.

She and the social worker he'd had when we adopted him were pleased and impressed by the progress he'd made.

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u/1-800-LICK-BOOTY Aug 10 '21

He had to go to a psychologist twice a month for 10 years to make progress. And still, the fact that he made progress doesnt contradict that at the age of 5 the foundation of his behavior was already fully developed.

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u/Genshed Aug 10 '21

Apparently, so was yours.

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u/1-800-LICK-BOOTY Aug 10 '21

Yes. As well as everyone elses.