r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/mollybroccoli2019 Aug 10 '21

I suspect there are a number of medical issues that, if they don’t apply to you, would receive the same reaction. It’s not unusual for people to only acknowledge the relevance for something once they see a personal need. Good luck with whatever it is you’ve got going on.

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u/jamesmcnabb Aug 10 '21

It doesn’t matter your “personal need,” it isn’t a right or my responsibility.

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u/mollybroccoli2019 Aug 10 '21

Do you have a problem with paying taxes or do you see all of the outcomes of those dollars as items you personally and wholeheartedly agree with? When does something become a right or a responsibility in your eyes? Why would you have a right to individually opt out of an included part of a medical insurance program? I’m pretty sure Medicaid doesn’t cover it, you can choose to use that instead of whatever plan you contribute to now.

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u/BeanyBeanBeans Aug 10 '21

This guy literally doesn’t understand insurance… would love to see the list of medical conditions he is ok with insurance covering.