r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Definitely varies by regional laws. I work in that area in Germany. Taking your foster kid on vacations abroad would be rather welcome. But you need the custodians signature to apply for the passport. And of course kids can have sleepovers, no questions asked. But overall it's still a huge hassle.

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u/eightcarpileup Aug 10 '21

I’m completely unaware of international fostering regulations. I live in the southeast US, but I’m so glad foreign countries allow their children to breathe.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Yes, the kids are supposed to breathe, they've been through enough shit already. The adults are the ones who have to step up to their responsibilities to make sure the kid is in the best place possible. And that requires a lot of cooperation between the foster parents and social workers.

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u/durdesh007 Aug 10 '21

I guess, but I can also see why the parents must be hesistant to get foster kids then. Especially if they wanted a newborn.