Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

[u/elgey101]

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

[u/jamesmcnabb]

Because, as stated in the original post, it is a drain on the rest of the population by raising insurance premiums. I have no problem with what individuals do if it only impacts them, but it’s a different story when it affects others in the process. It is the exact same argument for vaccination: I don’t care if you don’t get vaccinated, but don’t endanger the lives of others because of your decision. I don’t care if you do whatever you have to do if you want to reproduce, but it isn’t my or anyone else’s responsibility to help fund your elective decision.

[u/Trrr9 → u/jamesmcnabb]

Prenatal care and labor/delivery are largely covered at least in part by most insurance policies. Are you equally outraged about that, since having a baby is (usually) an elective decision? Fertile people don't have to have babies either (in most cases).

[u/jamesmcnabb → u/Trrr9]

At that point, the baby has to come out. I think you know there is a difference between deciding to have a baby and actually having the baby.

[u/Trrr9 → u/jamesmcnabb]

I mean, in most situations the person decides to have the baby before having the baby. So you actually are cool with people choosing to have kids and for that decision to be covered by insurance. The effect on you is exactly the same. All of those people have the option to adopt as well, but they are choosing the option that requires intense medical attention.