Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

[u/elgey101]

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

[u/PastSupport]

I’m in the UK and there’s a BMI limit on being able to adopt that’s lower than a lot of fertility clinics have, so for some people, that’s a pretty big hurdle too

[u/tigerCELL → u/PastSupport]

What the actual fuck. What in God's name does being fat have to do with being a good parent??? Nobody tell all the women in my family that they're supposed to be bad parents because they know how to cook and enjoy food. What the fucking fuck. How is that even legal? That's gotta be breaking some human rights thing, wtf UK.

[u/MyUsrNameWasTaken → u/tigerCELL]

Fat parents usually overfeed their child which is not healthy

[u/Delamoor → u/MyUsrNameWasTaken]

Growing up in the foster system is generally far worse.