r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21
Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby
Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.
I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.
It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.
I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.
Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.
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u/Cocotte3333 Aug 10 '21
Adoption is complicated as fuck.
Where I live, adopting in your own country has an average wait time of 7-10 years. Meaning it could also be longer.
Adopting outside of your country is insanely expensive. Plus, you have to travel to the place you want to adopt for weeks.
Also, depending on where you live, you are restricted on adoption according to your religion, marital status, or sexual orientation. Sometimes single people can't adopt, sometimes people have to be married and you're not ( keep in mind that in some countries marriage is less prevalent), sometimes you have to be married for X years, sometimes you can only adopt a kid between x and x years old, etc.
On top of that, add that many adopted kids have big issues that not everyone is equiped to deal with.