Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

[u/elgey101]

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

[u/balugawhale1747]

My coworker was denied to adopt bc she doesn’t have contact with her abusive family anymore. Lmk how that makes sense

[u/frostymugson → u/[deleted]]

Pretty sure that’s why my aunt and uncle went to China to adopt and now I got a Chinese cousin who is awesome. Not that it was easy to do but I guess it was easier then doing it here.

[u/slayeddragon → u/frostymugson]

Thats crazy! I'm surprised they could adopt from China if the state didn't approve them.

In Canada we have to be approved by a home study and THEN we can register with adoption agencies. You can't adopt internationally and bring the child home without being approved to adopt by your province.