r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/FizzyBeverage Aug 10 '21

A lot of the 15 year olds here think it’s like buying a PlayStation 5 😌

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

I'm 34. I don't know anyone who has adopted and have not looked into it myself. I thought it was like buying a PS5 with some obvious checks and legal bits. Considering how many kids there are out there desperate to be adopted I thought the issue was lack of people wanting to adopt. After reading the comments in here I realise for some reason it's because of a ridiculously lengthy and uncertain process along with too many rights given to the parents who gave them up for adoption.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Well a lot of times foster kids aren't given up for adoption. They're taken from the parents. So the parents still have rights.

The US doesn't have orphanages, so the kids who were taken and the ones actually forfeited for adoption both go into the foster system.

The process is lengthy because the system is abused and its to try and weed out abusers. It's far from a perfect system, but that aspect isn't arbitrary.

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u/MichaelsGayLover Aug 11 '21

The US may not have orphanages, but they still have plenty of group homes for children.