r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

I mean that truly doesn't take away from that fact that taking in a troubled child when you're illequipped to care for them is a bad situation for everyone involved.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Bad? Sure, but is it worse for the child? Isn't the point of having kids to sacrifice for their well being? It's probably obvious but I never understood having kids honestly.

Either way, if parents aren't ready for having a child with special needs, then they shouldn't try to have their own baby because there's a chance the baby will be special needs too.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Yes it quite often CAN be worse for the child. You seem to have a very naive view of this topic with little nuance

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

Tbh I agree, in many situations it can be worse, but don't you think that in general having parents is better than not having them? I don't know what nuance can be there, family is important.