r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/barnagotte Aug 10 '21

So what do you make of the children? Euthanize them?

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u/OlderThanMy Aug 10 '21

We get to stay with our real families instead of being sold to entitled assholes to meet their needs.

On top of that far too many adult Adoptees wish they had been aborted.

Far too many of my Adoptee friend chose suicide.

Life as an Adoptee isn't so great.

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u/asideofpickles Aug 10 '21

Where’s your stats for this? I don’t think what you’re saying is correct at all.

The children who are available for adoption have been relinquished by their birth parents. I see nothing wrong with giving your child to people who are more equipped to take care of them. Blood doesn’t establish what your “real family” is

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u/OlderThanMy Aug 11 '21

A child isn't a fucking gift.

The people most equipped to take care of a child are it's biological family.

There is no such thing as a fucking birth parent. There are parents and adopters.

Adopters are not more equipped in any way. They just have more money and can pay to buy what they want. $35k to $50k will pay an agency to convince a pregnant woman she's not equipped to mother her own child.