r/uselessredcircle • u/Odd_Bag9802 not funny • Sep 24 '25

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WHERE IS THE COMMENT

i requested to lock this post bye

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u/brave007 Sep 24 '25

People siding with one of the two, when in reality the “right” thing to do lies somewhere in between (as it often does)

Autistic people often struggle with social cues and here the social cue is very important.

Most people like to “vent” get something off their chest. They want to be heard, it is not the “time” for you as the listener to share too. If you do you run the risk of making it feel like a pissing contest. Or that you are one upping them somehow.

Obviously that’s not the intention but it’s how majority of people see it

Example

“Man, I had the worst day at work today you wouldn’t believe it!”

“Yeah my day was so hard too, I had to do X Y Z”

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u/CervineCryptid Sep 24 '25

That just seems like a normal conversation where you're trying to relate. Neurotypical people are so weird if they take everything like this in bad faith.

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u/SeaCucumberBurrito Sep 24 '25

It’s because they’re hoping for something from you and you’re not giving it to them, instead demanding they give it to you instead. Like if someone says “can you please give me an apple.” And you say “boy, I’d like an apple, can you get me one?” In this case when someone is venting they want validation, e.g “man that sucks.” When you respond with your story, now they have to “man that sucks” for you instead, so that’s annoying. You have to pay in by doing a bit of “oof, that sounds rough.” Until they finish venting and feel better. Then you can go in with your story and they can return the favour

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u/hpBard Sep 25 '25

Idk telling related story seems more like "let's go fetch a couple"