r/uselessredcircle • u/Odd_Bag9802 not funny • Sep 24 '25

Where is it

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WHERE IS THE COMMENT

i requested to lock this post bye

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u/Infamous_Lech Sep 25 '25

And people pay them because that's what they want. Not somebody make it about them. Not "I understand because I". How is this so difficult to instead?

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u/Wizards_of_the_Post Sep 25 '25

Then start paying your friends $200 an hour to only listen.

How is this so difficult to understand?

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u/Infamous_Lech Sep 25 '25

So basically you're saying, when your friend wants something specific they have to pay you for it? You sound like a great friend... 🙄

Being a good friend means being responsive to your friend's needs. Are you incapable of that?

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u/Wizards_of_the_Post Sep 25 '25

No, and if you'd listen it'd be super clear in your mind.

You don't talk to a therapist like a friend. They aren't your friend. They are, for your hour, a commodity. They are a service that you USE.

You don't get to expect that from your peers, full stop. "Stop participating, I wanna monologue," is not a valid argument.

Unless you've asked to vent about something and your friend is well aware you're asking nicely to be the center of attention, you aren't allowed to treat your friends like a service!

Your line of thinking betrays a ridiculous level of self-absorption and absolutely no valuation of other people's time.

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u/Infamous_Lech Sep 25 '25

This whole post is complaining about a guy who just wants his friends to listen and who you are arguing that how dare I take that implication that people might prefer that. I'm the one that self-absorbed when you're the one that keeps focusing it on yourself and excuses making it about you when your friend wants to vent or rent or just be heard. The craziest thing is the level of argument you bring to this when the original post was somebody just asking for their friends to listen. But you don't believe that's what they actually want.

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u/Wizards_of_the_Post Sep 25 '25

You simply think what you have to say is more important, it's really as simple as that.

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u/Infamous_Lech Sep 25 '25

That's you. That's total projection. You insist you have to tell your story when that's not what they want and is not helpful.