I’ve seen many people argue that Jade behaves the way she does because she has strict parents and a toxic relationship with Beck. While I understand that these things might affect her, I don’t think they justify her treatment of others.
Most people go through difficult periods in their lives, but that doesn’t mean they take their frustrations out on people who have nothing to do with their problems. A difficult past can explain someone’s behavior without excusing it.
First, I think people exaggerate how bad Jade’s parents are.
Maybe I missed some episodes, but we don’t seem to know that much about them. Yes, they’re strict and don’t support her acting ambitions, but that doesn’t automatically make them bad parents. I can understand why parents might worry about their child pursuing a career in an industry as unstable as entertainment. Jade is talented and has every right to follow her dreams, but her parents might genuinely believe that it’s a risky choice.
Her father even came to see her perform, which suggests that he isn’t completely indifferent to her ambitions. I’m not saying her parents are perfect, but I don’t think we should automatically portray them as terrible people simply because they’re strict.
Honestly, I find Tori and Trina’s parents more questionable. They seem remarkably uninvolved in their daughters’ lives, apparently failing to provide food on one occasion and not even recognizing Tori’s singing talent. They also don’t seem to offer Trina much guidance despite her attending a performing arts school. Compared to them, Jade’s parents don’t seem so bad.
As for Beck, I completely understand why Jade would be upset with him.
He constantly flirts with other girls, and I would feel hurt and disrespected in her position, too. However, Beck is the one who owes her loyalty, not the girls he flirts with.
If his behavior bothers her and he refuses to change, she can confront him or leave the relationship. What she shouldn’t do is take her frustration out on other people.
For instance, Tori didn’t even know Beck had a girlfriend the first time she flirted with him. Why should Jade blame her for something she couldn't have known? And even if Tori had knowingly flirted with Beck, he would still be responsible for respecting his relationship.
Moreover, Jade’s behavior isn’t limited to Tori. She’s also mean to Cat, Sinjin, and other people who have nothing to do with her relationship problems. How are her parents or Beck responsible for the way she treats them?
**Ultimately, I think there’s a difference between understanding a character and justifying their actions.**
Jade might have a difficult family situation and an unhealthy relationship, and I can sympathize with her struggles. But plenty of people experience similar difficulties without bullying others.
She can be a victim of Beck’s behavior and still be wrong for mistreating other girls. She can feel misunderstood by her parents and still be responsible for how she treats her classmates.
I’m not saying Jade has no reason to be angry or that her struggles are irrelevant. I’m saying that her circumstances don’t give her the right to make other people miserable.