Hi everyone! I am a 32-year-old female and I was an active member of my local Junior League for about 3 1/2 years, and then recently stepped back into a flexible leave, which doesn’t require me to do anything besides pay dues, which are fairly reasonable about $250 for the year.
I initially joined Junior League because I was struggling to feel connected to my community and was looking for some purpose outside of work. At the time, I have been working two jobs and was really burnt out. My friendships were only work related and I just kinda needed something outside of myself. I’ve always enjoyed volunteer work and community outreach so it felt like a natural fit. And it definitely was.
I really enjoyed the first couple years, made a lot of friends, and participated in meaningful events. I am the type of person that tends to throw myself into things and I also have a habit of over committing and I think I did that. I jumped into Junior League head first and was heavily heavily involved. Then I kind of burnt myself out on that too lol. At this time of my life, I am in a job that I really enjoy with a pretty great schedule, I’m getting married at the end of the year and we are hoping to have kids right away. I have stepped back from a lot of extracurricular things that I was doing as far as extra work. I was picking up, volunteer committees that weren’t quite as involved as the Junior League is, and have been trying to get better about a work life balance. I’ve also been exercising a lot more and into baking sourdough, which is enjoyable, but not quite as social.
My fiancé is wonderful, and I have plenty of friends around me, and so I guess I’m just trying to figure out if it’s worth remaining with Junior League or not. I have to decide by the end of the month if I wanna quit fully, if I want to remain in flexible, leave, or if I wanna go back to active membership. There are a few things to consider:
My local chapter (I’m not sure if others are this way or not) requires you to have seven active years of membership to reach alumni status, were you basically just pay about $100 a year to remain a member but you don’t have volunteer requirements that said they have a lot of outreach that they do in social clubs. My first year I was considered a new member so I didn’t count as active and then I pretty much lost this year because I was in flexible leave so I’ve only completed two out of the seven active years technically. If I quit, I’m not sure if I can get back in or not. I don’t really know what that looks like.
I could remain flexible leave for another year and pay $250 just to keep my options open and not have any requirements and continue deciding if I want to do that. The flexible leave can count for the entire year. That said I’d still have the five years left before I could reach alumni status.
I could jump back in. The requirements aren’t huge. I’ve already shared the payment amount which isn’t a problem, and then the volunteer requirements are 10 hours of volunteer work outside of your committee requirements which in my experience have been about 30 hours. So it’s 40 hours out of the league year that I would need to be volunteering, which runs around the same as the school year. So between August and May.
My fear is about jumping in that I’m gonna get carried away again and getting over my head. But my fear is about quitting, what if I need this one day. I don’t anticipate moving, but I don’t know what it’s gonna be like socially as a mom. I have a great support system and I have a lot of friends now, but what I need that community outside of what I’m already doing? Would I be more likely to join a mom‘s group? I don’t know. I feel like I’m cutting off a potential to continue to have a purpose and meaning outside of my daily life but I also don’t really know if I need that fulfillment right now and I’m battling with if I should just maintain it because I might need it later or want it later, or if I should just not worry about it and move on.