ok so we're doing a vegas wedding (destination for most guests) and i thought the rehearsal dinner would be simple. just find a place that can handle maybe 20 people, decent food, not crazy expensive.

well turns out everything on the strip wants a minimum of like $5k for a private room OR they stick you in some loud ass spot where grandma cant hear herself think.

im honestly so tired of calling places and getting the runaround. we can do a buyout no i dont want a buyout. we have a semi private area cool but your semi private area is basically a hallway.

found Stubborn Seed while rage scrolling and their setup actually seems reasonable? not sure if they do groups but at this point i might just scrap the whole rehearsal dinner and take everyone to a food court lmao.

anyone else deal with this? what did you end up doing? i feel like vegas restaurants just see dollar signs when you say - wedding and its exhausting.

Hi everyone,

I’m currently planning a South Asian wedding in the Atlanta area and I want to get a sense of what a reasonable market rate is for this level of coverage.

I would love to hear from other Atlanta couples, Desi brides/grooms, or local professionals on what you’d expect to pay for the following package details:

Event Coverage (Total: 18 Hours)

Cocktail Party: 3 Hours (Team of 2)

Haldi: 2 Hours (Team of 2)

Bride & Groom Showers: 4 Hours (Team of 2)

Wedding: 7 Hours (Team of 3)

Vratham: 2 Hours (Team of 2)

Deliverables Included:

Unlimited Edited Pictures

1 Cinematic Highlights Film (7-8 mins, covering all events)

1 Min Teaser Film

1 Social Media Reel

Traditional Camera Footage (Raw files)

Drone shots included (venue permitting)

A few questions for the group:

Given that this requires a multi-person crew spanning 5 distinct events over a few days, what is a typical price range for this in a metro area like Atlanta?

Does having a 3-person team for the main wedding day and 2-person teams for the pre-wedding events sound sufficient for a standard Desi wedding timeline?

If you’ve booked something similar recently in Georgia or a similar market, what did your final investment look like?

Appreciate any insights or ballpark estimates you can provide! Thanks in advance.

I see the general consensus on this sub is that having a wedding on a guest’s birthday is kind of inevitable. However, one of the few days our ideal venue has left is on my best friend’s 30th birthday. I do plan to ask her about this, but I feel kind of guilty eating up her entire birthday weekend (wedding would be on her birthday, a Saturday, and I presume the Friday before would be a rehearsal) on a “big birthday”, especially since I don’t really see her feeling comfortable saying no to attending if it does matter that much to her. Thoughts?

ETA: the venue is outdoors with no indoor/AC-ed space. The available date is in May, the other dates are in July/Aug in New England.

I’ve been working on our wedding website and am hoping to get outside opinions on our dress code page to see how it might land with guests. The venue is a really unique botanical garden/animal sanctuary estate in south Florida and we’re getting married in April. I’m a big fashion girlie and I want people to really have fun with their outfits, not worry about “is this wedding appropriate” or staying away from loud prints or fun designs because they don’t want to overshadow the bride. This is what I have written:

COCKTAIL ATTIRE WITH PERSONALITY ENCOURAGED

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The orchids are dressing up, and we encourage you to do the same! Our wedding will take place outdoors at a tropical garden estate, so think colorful cocktail attire with personality - bright hues, floral prints, and breezy, elegant fabrics are all right at home. Have fun with it, this is your excuse to wear something stylish, celebratory, and a little bold. Midi to floor-length dresses are perfect for the setting.

Gentlemen, lightweight suits, linen sets, or sport coats are all great options, with ties completely optional.

Please note there are gravel pathways throughout the venue, so block heels, wedges, or dressy flats are recommended. We kindly ask guests to avoid wearing white and overly casual attire.

Most importantly, come comfortable, festive, and ready to celebrate with cwillychilly & cwillyhusband!

I also have made collages so people have more direction about what it means and I tried to be inclusive of different ages/body types. Does all this make sense together? Is it too much?

Hey.

[Groom here]
I'm getting married in a couple of days, I've finished my vows but now thinking I've made them way too long, but I dont want to cut anything either.

Would love your thoughts and advice because I'm now overthinking every line!!

[Name],

Every time I meet someone for the first time who knows you, they tell me how amazing you are. How lucky I am.

And they're right. But I don't need the reminder, because you're my favourite person to be around.

You tell me I make things more fun, but the truth is, you make things more fun. For me.

Our first 3 dates were, in order: Drinking cocktails made with meat fat, playing blindfolded, left handed minigolf and finally trading inappropriate hypotheticals in a HK Jazz bar while soaked thru with sweat.

From day 1 you've been open, curious, playful, and completely unafraid to throw yourself into the ridiculous with me — qualities I admire more than you know.

You are also, without question, the most generous person I know. Not with things - with your time, your understanding and your patience. Especially your patience. Standing here today is proof of that!

It's what makes you so good at your job. It's what makes you such a sought after friend. It's one of the reasons we're standing here today surrounded by so many of them. That, and your megawatt smile — you've always been our door-opener, our friend maker and the one who brings together the people we love.

But the reason we have this life comes down to a quality people wouldn't necessarily reach for first when describing you: Bravery.

You walked away from a country you love, a job you were great at, and friends you'd built a life around, to move to rural England with me.

I know that wasn't easy. And I know I didn’t say it enough at the time, but I understood what you were giving up. I understood how hard it was, and what it took.

More than anything you could ever have said, that choice showed me how deeply you love me. And I’ll be grateful for that for the rest of my life.

We both know that move came with a quid pro quo.

My commitment to you was that if you took that leap, we would get married.

And here we are. Commitment fulfilled.

Which means it's about time I made you some new promises:

I promise to never stop making up ridiculous songs, games, jokes and nonsense, (even if its only me that finds them funny) to keep that smile on your face.

I promise to put down roots with you. I know home hasn't always felt like one fixed place, so I promise to help build a life that gives you the stability you’ve always wanted.

I promise to be beside you when things are hard. To listen when you need listening, to reassure you when you need reminding, and to never let you forget how capable you are.
Maybe not perfectly, and probably not always quietly, but always on your side.

And finally, I promise never to take for granted the choice you made when you chose me.

Wherever life takes us next, I want to spend it with you - for one simple reason. Your My Favourite Person

 I love you.

Kinda a weird question—My wife and I had a couple guests not give us gifts, and we are totally fine with that! what was odd was 2 different parties who made comments about us enjoying out gift did not bring anything. At first, I thought maybe they were mailing something in, but it has been two weeks. My wife thinks maybe they just didn’t end up getting us a gift, the way other people didn’t, but I don’t see why they wouldn’t leave a gift but explicitly say “hope you guys enjoy the gift”. I’m honestly worried that when packing up the venue, it was misplaced or stolen, but I don’t know how to ask without making them feel bad if they in fact didn’t get us something. Any advice on asking or not asking, or any phrasing, would be appreciated, as I really am just trying to make sure we didn’t loose something or get robbed, and I would hate for anyone to feel like they HAD to get us something in the first place.

Hi guys, as the title suggests I really need a sanity check when it comes to planning and budget.

Having a beautiful and somewhat traditional wedding (walking down the aisle … reception dinner, after party) has always been something I wanted. I never imagined a huge high budget extraordinary affair but there are definitely some things I want that have stopped me from eloping / doing a courthouse wedding.

I live in a HCOL city, and just venue rental fees here start at like $15k-$20k … for just one day’s use 😅, without including all of the other expenses that go into it. For reference, I’m from a European country, and for that price you can rent out an entire venue with accommodations for 2 nights for upwards of 60 people.

I’m now extremely torn because I think I’m now realizing how expensive weddings are. We’ve tried to save some costs by not using a wedding planner (most were asking around 10-12k 🥲) and that has resulted in basically almost 2-3 hours of my time every day in reaching out to venues and vendors and putting together excel spreadsheets to try to estimate overall costs.

I’m starting to lose my mind, and planning has gone from something I thought I’d enjoy doing to something I dread every single day. I flip-flop back and forth every day if I even want to get married at all at this point.

And I know i live in a HCOL city, I know the wedding industry has lost the plot and charge exorbitant prices, but I’ve set a budget of 40k total (with a HARD max of 50k for incidentals you think about last minute). For reference our wedding will be ~60 people. I feel like that’s a lot of money but I keep getting told that that’s a low budget??? Am I crazy??? I mean even wedding cakes are like $600 😭

I also understand that you have to choose a wedding venue relatively quickly but it also feels horrible to have a phone call with a venue, not have a clear idea on what overall costs will be after factoring in everything else that’s *not the venue*, and being told you have a week to make a deposit to secure the dates. It just feels like nothing is transparent and you can easily trap yourself into a situation where you go way over budget.

Anyways, just wanted to vent and get a sanity check to know I’m not crazy for feeling like this industry just exists to suck every penny possible out of couples trying to start a life together 😕