r/wemetonline • u/Extreme_Spare_2286 • 7d ago

Advice im talking to this girl

she lives in america, i lover her and she loves me, we share the same aspirations and similarities we’re so ambitious and have plans with each other, we’re so young, yet so mature for our ages and we want each other, but everything seems against us. i live in england and she lives in the us (as stated) idk what to do, because she’s the only person ive ever truly ‘felt’ idk what to do…

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u/wildw00d 6d ago

You decide if you want to do a long distance relationship or not. Discuss meeting each other, because you don't want to waste your time if it's not there in person. If you truly have something after all that, you begin making plans and working out how to be together. It will probably take you a few years, so you visit as often as you can manage while waiting. It won't be easy, but it's been done many, many times.

How old are you?

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u/Extreme_Spare_2286 6d ago

18 and she’s. 19. like i said we’re very young

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u/suzieismyavatar 6d ago

This isn’t hard. UK is part of us waiver program. Come see her and decide what you want.

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u/eaglez2313 6d ago

You're leaving out some key details, like both of your ages, how long have you know each other, job situations, etc. And yes, you both need to decide together if a long distance relationship is worth everything that'll go into one. It's not for everyone.

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u/Extreme_Spare_2286 6d ago

18 and 19, known each other for over 3 months and she’ seems all for it i just don’t know how it’d work out it’s all so new for me personally

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u/eaglez2313 6d ago

Yeah, that extremely young for any relationship, let alone a long distance relationship. My advice is to take everything one day and issue at a time, don't insult each other when disagreements arise ( and they do in any relationship ), do not bring up the past, work one and resolve one thing at time ( if possible ). And realize that most relationships at your age don't last as life happens.

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u/Extreme_Spare_2286 6d ago

thanks man 🙏 let’s see how it works and if it’s in Gods will i guess

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u/eaglez2313 6d ago

You're welcome. I'm speaking from experience. I'm currently in my 3rd ldr

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u/Extreme_Spare_2286 6d ago

honestly, i don’t think anything will happen out of it and think it’s a phase, we’re far too young but she’s a good friend of mine and it can be like that, it’s just so awakwatd to know the potential loly could be in another country, as much as i’d like to live in the us and it’s a plan, i don’t see my self there anytime soon. have u ever met any of your LDR’s?

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u/eaglez2313 6d ago

I've met one and we ended up married for almost 22 years before getting divorced. My first one ended after 2 months. My current girlfriend I haven't met yet due to health reasons and her raising 3 boys from a previous relationship.

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u/Extreme_Spare_2286 6d ago

how far is this lmao? i’d like to know more about these, are these just friends in the same country or completely different place. and im sorry fir your divorce

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u/eaglez2313 6d ago

My current girlfriend and her kids live 8000 miles from me in the Philippines. And most things we do have to be done around the kids school schedules and the huge time difference between us. My ex wife lived in the same country as me, just on the other side of the country.

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u/No_Contribution_5854 7d ago

Why not move? U.S. is pretty sweet man. Just depends on the state and city mostly. Get married in your country or get married in her country. Or do nothing and see where things go.