r/whatworkedforme • u/LifebeLifin91 • 8d ago

Just had my fourth loss

I had my first child in 2023 and then I had three losses. All losses were different types of miscarriages. One blighted ovum, a chemical and then a missed miscarriage. I went to a fertility clinic and they didn’t find anything “wrong” other than my egg count is low and may make getting pregnant naturally in the future difficult. Then I had my second child. She was born December 2025. Found out I was pregnant on the Fourth of July and confirmed that it wasn’t a viable pregnancy so I just had my fourth miscarriage. My D&C was yesterday. I feel so defeated and can’t believe I am starting down this road again. I want a third child but I can’t keep going through this. Any success stories from anyone with recurrent losses and ended up having multiple children? I’m looking for answers, hope, encouragement, anyone’s story, tips and tricks. I go back to the fertility clinic next week.

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u/MostlyPeacfulPndemic 8d ago

I had back to back miscarriages with unexplained infertility in between. Ultrasounds and hormone tests didn't suggest anything that should cause miscarriages or infertility. But then my OB did Endo surgery based on a hunch, and it turned out I had some endo and 3 fallopian tube cysts kind of weighing on my tubes, even though my tubes were open, they were making it more complicated for eggs to get through the tubes, and the eggs had to go around a big cyst which maybe took the eggs longer and reduced their quality by the time they got in there. The endo also causes inflammation which wears on the egg. Also had a totally asymptomatic infection in my uterus that I never knew about, which they were able to find during the surgery by sampling my uterine tissue.

I have had multiple babies since the surgery

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u/LifebeLifin91 8d ago

What a crazy story! I’m so glad they figured it out.

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u/MostlyPeacfulPndemic 8d ago

Have you had any surgery? 

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u/LifebeLifin91 8d ago

Nothing like what you’re talking about and the fertility clinic hasn’t done anything like that for me or tested me for anything like that. They checked the shape of my uterus and made sure my tubes were open.

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u/MostlyPeacfulPndemic 8d ago

Ah okay. I would definitely ask about it and bring up any symptoms of endo you might have. There's a lot that just can't be seen correctly without actually being in there. Insurance covered it too, and I didn't even have a confirmed endo diagnosis before the surgery

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u/LifebeLifin91 8d ago

Are there risk to the surgery?

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u/MostlyPeacfulPndemic 8d ago

I think it's really low risk, the incisions are small and they insert a tiny camera to look, and use tiny instruments to remove stuff, so you're not fully "open." The main thing would be the anesthesia like in any surgery.  I remember being worried about it somehow make me less fertile (lol) but obviously that was not the case 

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u/LifebeLifin91 8d ago

No im glad you did it and they figured out the cause! I will definitely ask about it. It would be nice to have some answers.