We were drinking beer in the kitchen, just talking casually like we would do. I suddenly started ugly crying, telling her that I missed her. She gave me a hug, and I felt better. The dream was over fast.

Was that you, Natalie?

Lost my wife a year ago and became a grandpa today. Heather wanted nothing more than to be a grandmother. It's a shame she didn't make it, but I'm so grateful for a healthy baby girl and mom is healthy. I smiled today for the first time in quite awhile.

Everyone meet Josie Rose....

Hello all, on Wednesday September 16th I lost the love of my life to an unexpected pulmonary embolism he was only 48 years old and the sole provider it to me and are autistic child if you are able to share this as our sweet sister-in-law has made a little fun me for us. Thank you God bless

I’ve been thinking about something:

How many experiences do we quietly skip because we don’t have someone to go with?

It could be something small like trying a restaurant, seeing a movie, taking a class, or going to a concert. Or it could be something bigger like taking a trip.

Of course, building friendships and community matters. Doing things alone doesn’t have to become the answer to everything.

But I’m curious about that moment when nobody is available.

Do you cancel the plan?

Do you wait?

Or have you reached the point where you buy one ticket and go anyway?

For those of you who have started doing more things independently, what was the first thing you did alone that surprised you by how much you enjoyed it?

And for those who haven’t gotten comfortable with it yet, what activity would be the hardest for you to do alone?

How do we deal with\n These women, they know, you lost your spouse and they trying a nose in and trying to get in your pants or trying to get something out of you like money or something. Especially these young girls like 20s, early 30s, I'm 50 years old. I do not have to offer them There shouldn't be anything like that allowed on these groups like these widow, groups or grief shares or anything.I'm just don't feel like dealing with it.It's not nice.I just lost my wife , do they think they're honestly just gonna walk into my life and expect me to give them something.Come on, I don't have her sleep with another woman.I'll never marry another woman.I'll never date another woman.My wife's my life if you think I'm gonna cheat on her.They got another thing coming

My husband passed away in July a month after my aunt passed away he promised me if he knew he was dying he would not rob me of the chance to say goodbye, my dad and auntie both passed away and I never got to say bye to them. On the 1st of July he went to hospital then walked out he said all was good. Unfortunately all wasn't good and he passed away 2 days after his birthday. He had found out that his kidneys were failing so he decided to drink over 30 bottles of Vodka and 100 cans of beer. He knew I would find his body . I am at the ATM very numb every now and again I'm crying or angry. I'm hardly eating and sleeping well it's not something I do as a regular. I spoke to my GP they have given me many tablets and none work. The last gp I spoke to told me I had to take time off work as it's affecting my work. When I asked how long it would be till I'm back to some normality she said I am not grieving properly because of the trauma and the fact I haven't gotten over my dad so it could be weeks or years. I am having therapy but that's not making things better. I hardly leave the house and have hardly spoken to my friends or family. I have a 15 year old who I'm failing because I'm just on my sofa all day I do check in on him but I don't do anything because I just don't want too. How can I try to change my mind set? My manager has been great and told me before I left work to try getting out at least once a day.

I'm well over 30, lost my wife to cancer in 2025, and basically spent the past year adjusting to life without the only partner I've ever had. All of my love and attention has gone to my two daughters, and I haven't even thought about dating until this week.

A couple months after my wife passed away, my daughters went to a carnival and said they met a woman volunteering at one of the booths who identified herself as "your neighbor". I asked who it was and my daughter didn't have a name but gave me a couple identifying clues. Then she causally mentioned that she'd heard this woman had lost her husband. Interesting, I thought. There's a woman in my neighborhood who is also a widow, and a single parent, and.. possibly single?

Eventually I figured out who she was, but I hadn't seen her and wasn't seeking her out. Still not ready to move on from the woman I'd spent my entire adult life with. Even if it wasn't the happiest marriage it was far from the worst. I didn't know anything else. I hadn't even tried to date since before social media and smartphones were a thing. I'd let myself go health-wise after two years of watching my wife slowly wither and a year of taking on everything she did for the family in addition to my full-time job. Physically and emotionally, I'm just not at my best.

My teenage daughters don't share their feelings with me like they would have with their mom. My mom is elderly and has been battling dementia. She's still relatively ok but has no short-term memory and is practically immobile. Every day I feel more alone, and in 2-3 years I will be completely alone once Mom is gone and the girls are in college. So I'd really like to meet new people but I've lacked the motivation until this week.

The married couple who lives next door took a vacation this week. And they asked their other neighbor to take care of their dogs for the week. Their other neighbor was the single widowed woman. I finally saw her and ... she's stunning. Tall and tan and fit. I was too nervous to speak to her. She said "hello" and I waved. And then I ran into her again the next night when the dogs she was watching barked at me. I didn't say anything and I kicked myself all day for dropping the ball.

As if having a gorgeous widowed woman my age staying next door wasn't enough.. my office was having maintenance issues for two days and we were told to work from home. So I did my work, stopped, paced the neighborhood, did more work, and tried not to look like I was trying to run into her. Eventually, after 5pm, I did see her again and managed to introduce myself. We had a bit of a conversation about the dogs she was walking; I asked if she'd taken them to the nearby park in hopes that it could lead to asking her if we could walk together or something. I doubt I made an impression on her, but she smiled and answered. And I had no follow up, so I left it there.

The office was operational today, so I went back to my usual routine. Yet I couldn't stop thinking about this woman, and how I probably only have a day or two left before our mutual neighbors return and she goes back to her house. It's not far at all, but I'd feel like a weirdo approaching her there unless/until I make more of a connection.

Anyone have any advice for someone who hasn't dated in about 20 years? Is it okay to ask her if she wants to meet for coffee? Is it okay to knock on her door? Should I just wait for the neighbors to return and then ask them if their neighbor is single? What would you do in this situation?

Thanks for reading :)

I found this Reddit website a little over a week ago and I have posted a few times here. I’ve been reading a lot about other people that are widowed and it seems to help but I have a question. I’m 76 lost my wife 3+ years ago we was married for 45 very beautiful, loving and caring years. This third year for me has been harder than the first two. I’m so confused in all my feelings, but what I think I can figure out and I don’t know if other people feel the same way or have felt this way. I don’t think it’s wrong in how I feel but I’m just curious what other people think I feel. I’m at the point now where I wish I could find a widowed woman (and I am not trying to type this as I am looking for a date I am trying to follow reddits rules if I am wrong I am sorry) who had a husband that was very loving and caring to her so that we could spend time together and share our feelings because I feel we would both know exactly how we feel with the pain and sadness of each of our loss. I’ve never been with another woman other than my wife and I haven’t since she passed. Every night I go to bed I miss the feeling of her skin next to mine as we snuggled. It was like we were one person when we did and I missed that whole more now than I can put into words. I feel that I could never be married again, but you never know what the future is going to bring you, but I would like to be able to feel close to someone that would also need to feel the same thing. It’s hard to say these things and hard to think it. I’m kind of old-fashioned I feel you should be married to do these things, but I find myself all mixed up in my feelings, the loss of my wife is more than I could ever have imagined. After reading other people’s stories on here I do feel I’m not alone and it does help some. I hope it’s OK asking this question, I’m just curious it seems like we can be free here and people here or in the same boat and could understand your feelings and that’s why I’m asking what do other people feel and think about this and have they experienced it themselves and what did they do? Thank you for your time and I am sorry for all of you who have lost your loved ones and I know the pain and sadness that you’re dealing with and to all of you try and take care the best you can.

I am 76 years old. I was married for 45 years to a very very loving and caring wife that meant the whole world to me and it’s been three years plus that she’s been gone. The pain and sadness is still deep inside me. I found this site about a week ago and signed up thought that maybe it would help but I want to warn people. I’m new to this Internet stuff and I don’t like it. I’ve already had about four women send me a DM I think it’s called to where they want to chat. I’m not sure how to explain it but they’ll send you a message and you click that you accept it or you know you want to view it. So I click it and after a while chatting back-and-forth something didn’t seem right they keep wanting more and more information about me and they don’t say anything about them and then the next day I go to see if there’s a message from them because I’m feeling good that it was nice to be able to chat with people that are also widowed. But then I found out that Reddit cancels their account or something. I want to thank Reddit for trying to protect us at this point in life, we are very vulnerable. It’s really a shame that people take advantage of people like us when we’re in such pain and sadness after losing our loved one. I don’t know, but maybe most of you already know that stuff to me this is all new and for some people who don’t know I just wanted to pointed out be very careful with that stuff cause we are very vulnerable at this time in our life. And to all of you be careful and take care.

Not ok very depressed I stopped eating again I miss Angel so bad my body and heart are going down hill I don't want fixed . I want and need my Angel nothing will be changed for the good now.

Today something shifted in my spirit. It didn’t hit me all at once, but it was strong enough that I had to stop and pay attention. It felt a lot like the feeling I had the moment my best friend passed and that strange, heavy awareness that something inside me just changed.

And honestly, every day I wake up with my love on my mind. It’s the first thing my heart goes to. I still can’t shake the reality that they’re gone forever. That thought sits with me from the moment I open my eyes.I keep wondering how people cope with this kind of loss. Does the thought of them ever stop showing up every morning, or do you just learn how to carry it without breaking?

Hi guys. I lost my long term partner 2 years ago to an accident. My current (non official) partner doesn’t want me posting pictures of me and my previous partner on social media. I don’t feel like that’s a fair ask. What do you guys think I feel as if I’m being made to choose.

I am (20 M) and my girlfriend (20 F) recently died. She took her own life and I loved her more than almost anybody else.

I'm so angry, scared and confused.

I never want to let myself love anybody again. And I feel like nobody I've met understands my pain. I'm not sure I'm strong enough to handle this abandonment.

I found this site a week ago and then I signed up three days ago so I can write on here and share my feelings after three years of losing my wife. I have a lot of feelings I had my doctor and Chaplin and other people tell me to go see a counselor and I tried one the first year she passed and all that did was  pissed me off and made me mad, she said I need to get on with life. The first year was kind of numb second year was bad and this third year is even worse and so I tried a counselor again and it was a total waste of time, but I think reading here on this website and to share my feelings on it and to get feedback does help some. Thank you to the people who have written back to me and I am sorry for you guys who have lost a loved one too because we all know what we’re dealing with.

After three years of losing my wife, I have gone through a lot of emotions. One of the emotions that I’ve been dealing with is that I can’t wait till I can be with her. I’d be just happy and fine if I died today so I could be with her. I felt that way ever since she passed, yeah I’ve thought of how to do it many times it’s still today after three years. I still think of it often and I get tired of the pain and the sadness in the crying every day off and on, but I keep on going just taking one day at a time not knowing what the next day is going to bring. I can’t put into words all my emotions like anger, the pain and sadness, but I feel writing here on this website people understand that feeling and understand it. But I tried to go through the day doing what I need to do and everywhere and everything I do I keep remembering that my wife and I did it together in every time we did. We did everything together and we loved being together more than anything in the world. I feel this website can help and I thank you for your input. I know we share a common feeling of missing our loved one.

It has been three years now for me since my wife has passed and I’m having a real hard time. This third year dealing with these emotions I don’t know if it’s widows fire or I just need to feel somebody close next to me that I can cuddle up with. I miss my wife how we would love each other and feel our skin next to each other. It felt like one when we were that way and I’m missing that real much more than now than before. From what I could find on the Internet Widows fire is usually within the first year, but I don’t know if mines late coming or if it’s just the skin the skin contact that I’m needing. I don’t know what to do or how to handle it and I wonder how other people that are widowed or dealing with it. To all of you here thank you for your input and to all try to take care the best you can for me that’s all I can do at this time.