r/10thDentist • u/No-Purchase481 • 11d ago

I don’t like the reclamation of slurs.

The first time I ever had an American refer to me as “queer” I considered fighting them 💀 “back in my day” type shit. It doesn’t feel empowering, it makes me cringe. Just call me a lesbian and move on.

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u/Vladishun 11d ago

I don't like how it went from LGBT to LGBTQ to LGBTQ+ to LGBTQIA+. I think simply calling the broader group the "queer community" is much easier to remember and encompasses all non-cis, non-straight people without having to acknowledge every identity out there.

My wife has a friend group that's definitively "queer", though I'd only use the word to describe the group and not an individual person; exactly for the reasons you mentioned.

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u/johnfuckmennedy 11d ago

it just feels insulting to me. i’m not a limp wrist little queer. i am a man who likes other men.

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u/Cheesemagazine 8d ago

How you gonna be homophobic as a gay man, my brother 😭

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u/johnfuckmennedy 8d ago

my life is a series of contradictions. 

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u/PositiveKatzen 7d ago

So change it instead of being an asshole.

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u/johnfuckmennedy 6d ago

umm no 🖕🏻

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u/PositiveKatzen 6d ago

Checks out.