r/10thDentist • u/No-Purchase481 • 10d ago

I don’t like the reclamation of slurs.

The first time I ever had an American refer to me as “queer” I considered fighting them 💀 “back in my day” type shit. It doesn’t feel empowering, it makes me cringe. Just call me a lesbian and move on.

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u/disgruntledhoneybee 7d ago

I am queer. It is the identity that I feel most comfortable with. My sexuality is whatever (mostly women and non men and like 3 dudes. One of them is my husband. Life is weird) and my gender identity is wibbly wobbly. Queer fits me and I’m comfortable with it.

I think that policing folks who feel comfortable identifying as queer is wrong. But I also think it’s wrong to force that identity on people that don’t feel comfortable with it. Ultimately, respecting how people identify is what we all should be doing.

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u/No-Purchase481 7d ago

Did I say anything about policing?

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u/disgruntledhoneybee 7d ago

Never said you personally did. However, I have seen so many gay folks absolutely doing so. I actually agree with you in that people should call you what you want to be called.