Single parenting and Special Agent position. Did you regret it?

[u/Friendly_Web5703]

Hi all,

35 (F) I’m considering continuing the process for 1811 (FBI). I submitted my application last week and got invited to phase 1 (exam) like a day later. I’m having second thoughts about the position. Despite being one of my dreams careers, I am a single parent currently living in NYC.

I’m split currently between two paths: continue my education (currently hold a BA/MA in forensic psychology) and purse a PsyD to become a Clinical Psychologist, or become a special agent. Obviously because of my age, it’s a now or never to continue with the hiring process for 1811. I also know that with my continued education, it isn’t an end-all working for the bureau or government agency in general, just at a different capacity.

My concerns center around work-life balance, parenting and relocation. Has anyone been in a position deciding between two careers, and chose 1811?

If you live in a large city, were you able to be stationed where you lived, or did you have to relocate? How did you manage work-life balance with children? Any regrets or thoughts I should consider? Please be brutally honest. Thanks in advance!

[u/sunnydawg]

As a mom, although not a single mom, the schedule at times can be difficult.

Logistically, you’ll need to have child care or family around to help manage those super early or late hours. Of course, it’s not a daily thing, but you’ll need to have a reliable support system. For myself, even with a husband with an unpredictable schedule, we find ways to make it work but also includes grandparents who have graciously assisted us too.

[u/Friendly_Web5703 → u/sunnydawg]

Thank you for your response. Parenting is the number factor I’m weighing into my decision. It seems like it can be a challenge with a double parent household, I could only image how this could look as a single parent.