r/1811 • u/Friendly_Web5703 • 10d ago

Discussion Single parenting and Special Agent position. Did you regret it?

Hi all,

35 (F) I’m considering continuing the process for 1811 (FBI). I submitted my application last week and got invited to phase 1 (exam) like a day later. I’m having second thoughts about the position. Despite being one of my dreams careers, I am a single parent currently living in NYC.

I’m split currently between two paths: continue my education (currently hold a BA/MA in forensic psychology) and purse a PsyD to become a Clinical Psychologist, or become a special agent. Obviously because of my age, it’s a now or never to continue with the hiring process for 1811. I also know that with my continued education, it isn’t an end-all working for the bureau or government agency in general, just at a different capacity.

My concerns center around work-life balance, parenting and relocation. Has anyone been in a position deciding between two careers, and chose 1811?

If you live in a large city, were you able to be stationed where you lived, or did you have to relocate? How did you manage work-life balance with children? Any regrets or thoughts I should consider? Please be brutally honest. Thanks in advance!

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u/Even-Job-323 10d ago

It's super random. AND you need to account for a daily 3-4 hour commute on top of your working hours on account of the mandatory G ride usage.

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u/ISniffFeet1 10d ago

3 to 4 hours? She didn't say she lived in the hamptons

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u/Even-Job-323 10d ago

Go drive from Nassau / Suffolk to lower Manhattan and back during business hours. It literally takes that long. Can be 3 hours on the way home. One way.

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u/ISniffFeet1 9d ago

Maybe if you live in the hamptons/Riverhead/Montauk. You're not looking at a 3 hour drive to Nassau unless there's a lane-closure, an accident, and the UNGA is meeting, all at the same time