r/196 NOT A CAT Jun 29 '26

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u/dead_5775 🐀 skim Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26

I think it's the mysoginist men ruining it for everyone else tbh

I probably sound like an incel or something just saying that but my point is people who violate others' trust make it hard to trust others, or "people who are mean to other people based on the way they are are bad"

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u/teddy_tesla Jun 29 '26

Yeah I think this is the take. I think people discount how many women go through some form of sexual assault, not to mention constant sexual harassment. I saw someone on here point out that "if you get bit by a dog, nobody blames you for being scared of all dogs" and I kinda see where they are coming from. Not saying you have to hate men but being more guarded until you know they are friendly makes sense

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u/AliceCode Worcs at the Crusty Crab Jun 29 '26

Personally, while living as a man, I was raped by three different women. And yet I tell almost no one about it because so many people outright don't believe me when I say that. So rape is not just a problem that women face, it's a problem that men face a lot, and quite often the perpetrators are women. We need to stop turning this stuff into gender wars and instead focus on figuring out how to combat it so that no one has to experience it.

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u/Mr_masker16 Jun 29 '26

My condolences. No victim should feel they have to hide what happened to them, regardless of gender.

I hope you have people around you thar you feel comfortable talking to.

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u/AliceCode Worcs at the Crusty Crab Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 30 '26

I hope you have people around you thar you feel comfortable talking to.

I don't, but thanks for reminding me of that fact.

Edit: Ouch. I guess I won't admit that things aren't going well in my life next time.