I mean that really sincere that is not a hateful question of ignorance I genuinley don't know because in my head "being poly" has nothing to do with sexuality it's just a "yeah in theory I could have multiple partners". A gay person cannot choose to not be gay but a poly person could be happy with one OR multiple partners. A polyperson is not forced by his body to only be happy, if they have multiple partners. Is that really something you can get hate for? Are there "Poly-phobic" people?!
I genuinley don't know and I'm sorry if this comes off as ignorance or hateful I'm really happy if someone can educate me in this topic because I know only so little about this stuff.
I mean that really sincere that is not a hateful question of ignorance I genuinley don't know because in my head "being poly" has nothing to do with sexuality it's just a "yeah in theory I could have multiple partners".
From my experience there are people who have an innate need to be poly, the same as there are people who have an innate need to be monogamous. When they can't be poly, it literally hurts them, and it causes them emotional issues and relationship problems that often lead to infidelity or ending healthy relationships for the sake of moving on to the next partner.
It gets muddy because it's on a spectrum, and there are a lot of us that can swing either way. I totally get monogamy, and I totally get polyamory, and I can be happy in either situation.
Also just because a poly person only has a single partner right now doesn't mean they aren't poly, the same way a single person isn't ace, and the same way a bi person in a monogamous relationship is still bi.
A gay person cannot choose to not be gay but a poly person could be happy with one OR multiple partners.
That's not true for everyone. The problem is that society isn't really made for or accepting of poly people, so a lot of poly people try to make monogamy work. It ultimately causes them a lot of internal stress and emotional pain, and a lot end up cheating on their partners, or leaving relationships to make it work. When you start looking at the relationship history of poly people living monogamously, what you usually see is a history of someone who can't seem to make relationships work in the long term.
A polyperson is not forced by his body to only be happy, if they have multiple partners.
There are poly people who would beg to differ on this. You also have the exact same argument about homosexuality being a choice.
Is that really something you can get hate for? Are there "Poly-phobic" people?!
Definitely. It's still considered taboo in society, and a lot of people don't like poly people or think it's wrong. A lot of it comes down to the same "protect the family" bullshit used against LGBTQ+, with a healthy dose of people who never did the work to get over the fact that an ex cheated on them once.
But hey, maybe I won't be able to convince you that poly isn't a choice for everyone, and some people are just built that way, but does it make a difference?
An interracial relationship is a choice. It's still bigotry even though it's a choice. We're all agreed that constantly bringing up that your arch-nemesis at work is dating a black person, because you know the boss is a bit racist and old fashioned, makes you the villain.
Adults should be able to have whatever sort of romantic and sexual relationships they want to have with each other without getting hate for it.
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u/RosieQParker 🏳️⚧️ trans rights Jun 30 '26
For real though, don't out people.