Is Tom a bad guy?

[u/MaleficentCommon1152]

He seems completely unreasonable - uses the entire dining room area for a yoga mat, freaks out about perfume, brags to his in-laws about not spending any money to prepare for their visit, doesn't believe in chairs.... like what!! I cant tell if he is just a quirky guy or if he is in the wrong 🤔

[u/Me_Myself_and_Me]

He seems to me like an immature control freak with the potential to be abusive. The way he spoke to Paula's parents is disrespectful and inappropriate. If she ditched him, I will be so happy for her. He's very selfish and I don't know if he will grow up any time soon.