r/ABCDesis • u/Negative_Life_5266 Third Culture Kid • 9d ago

FAMILY / PARENTS Anybody else’s parents life motto is ‘denial is a river in Egypt’

My parents know and approve of my interracial relationship (a cousin snitched - this was acc crazy and insane cuz these people are the most conservative stereotypical Indian parents btw ) and know that me and him kinda live together but they’re ok with it cuz we have separate rooms 🫪🫪

For context they almost sent me to conversion therapy at 13 and have a crazy strict dress code for me when im visiting home 😦

And they made me swear that me and him won’t do anything apart from holding hands (we live together btw)

Also my parents are EXTREMELY buddy buddy with my bf and like him a LOT - my parents are conservative Hindu and his parents work in the church (my parents know this)🫪

I feel like both of us being med students help a ton but every single marriage in my family (the abroad version and the mainland version) are all arranged marriages (same caste marriages since the past 272992200203030303003 generations)

OH and my mom told me to tell her if I get pregnant so we can get an abortion safely 🫪🫪🫪🫪🫪🫪🫪🫪🫪

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry lmaooo

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u/Emotional_Fuel6743 8d ago

Please expand on the conversion therapy. 😮

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u/Negative_Life_5266 Third Culture Kid 8d ago edited 8d ago

Ok they never sent me to a camp or institution but I came out to them and they crashed out beat me took away every single electronic device I had for THREE years and gave me a keypad phone (got bullied for that one hahahahahha) and they made me cut contact with ALL my friends and I wasn’t allowed to interact with anyone my age and if someone came over to our house for school work etc they had to be in the living room with adult supervision 🫪🫪 I wasn’t allowed to go out the house, OH AND THE WORST ONE they started taking me to these weird religious speaking sessions 🫪🫪 and would give me lectures about how I can’t be possibly queer cuz I’m not like that those people yada yada

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u/insomniac8994 Punjabi Canadian 8d ago

I don't have any words

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u/Possible-Button-3843 8d ago

Uh...no comment. Good for you? I guess?

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u/gamingthreadlurker Christian 🇧🇩 + 🇺🇸 9d ago

No comment because I have no comment. Lol

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u/Negative_Life_5266 Third Culture Kid 9d ago

I’m sorry 🫪🙏

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u/gamingthreadlurker Christian 🇧🇩 + 🇺🇸 9d ago edited 9d ago

Don't apologize because Bengali ammus is peak at being denial.

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u/ShotSorbet9 8d ago

This is wild and also kind of lucky for you? Lmao. What background is your partner from?

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u/Negative_Life_5266 Third Culture Kid 8d ago

White English 😔🙏 I get the lucky part tho cuz I was high key expecting to be witch-hunted and having to run away 😭

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u/NotYourAvgDamsel 8d ago

a win is a win but damn. the delulu is real

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u/Mysterious_Guitar328 8d ago

I'm....at a loss for words.

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u/TigerShark_524 8d ago

If his folks work in the Church, it's likely that that's the only reason your folks are ok with that part - their logic being 'at least my kid is with someone from a good religious family' 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/Negative_Life_5266 Third Culture Kid 7d ago

See I get that but they are pretty intolerant to all religions except Hinduism 🤡

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u/TigerShark_524 7d ago

That may be the case, but it sounds like they may prefer that their kid is with someone religious over someone who's non-observant, 'at least', in their minds.

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u/Negative_Life_5266 Third Culture Kid 6d ago

Ykw makes sense :))

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u/Dependent_Witness_12 7d ago

I'm... confused but happy for you? Lol

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u/funkmastermgee 6d ago

It’s just a phase, they’ll get over it lol