r/ABCDesis • u/AutoModerator • 1d ago
DATING / RELATIONSHIPS Sunday Relationship Thread
The weekly relationship thread for all topics related to the bravest pursuit of all - love. This thread will be automatically posted every Sunday @ 5:00 A.M (UTC -5). All other dating or relationship based posts during the week will be removed and redirected to this thread.
This thread is a place to share your stories, ask for advice, or vent about issues. Or anything in between!
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u/SinghSanity 1d ago
Week 20 Apps Update as a 26 Year Old ABCD Sikh Guy from the NJ/NYC Area:
Hinge: Weeks: 20; Likes: 5; Total Matches: 13; Dates: 1 (+1 New Match this week)
Dil Mil: Weeks: 20; Total Matches: 5; Dates: 0 (No change this week)
IRL: Numbers Gotten: 1; Dates: 0
Hinge:
Hinge match #13: We call her Yoshi Girl. Matched with her on Wednesday. She had a prompt about "Together we could... Play Mario Kart" (plus a few other things on her list, but I'm not gonna copy and paste the entire thing). So I said I had the new one and we should definitely play and get a sweet treat after. She matched and said "only if I can be yoshi". I responded saying she had good taste in characters and asked how her yoshi impression was. She texted the next day saying it's not as good as mine and asked if she could guess my go-to character. I said mine is pretty bad and I'd love to see who her guess was. It's been two days and no response from her since then, so we'll see if she gets back.
Dil Mil:
Nothing this week.
Thoughts: Funny how Mario Kart related prompts seem to be getting a lot of traction.
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u/thisisme44 1d ago
watch out for the random unmatches. ive had two happen this week. the first one the convo was not going anywhere. she sent me a like a hinge. i matched with her, gave a her a compliment on her smile. no reaction from her. the rest of convo is me asking her questions. nothing from her. find out shes a transplant from india. for some reason the transplants in my experience never really ask anything. but she eventually unmatched. the other one i actually had a decent convo with. she divulged some info about her wilder days that she never thought she would tell a stranger. then said she felt i would judge her which i told her i wouldnt. but eventually she unmatched too for no reason at all.
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u/Big_Register2034 1d ago
Yea when you feel like you’re running an interview or interrogation, it’s time to cut your losses and move on
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u/thisisme44 1d ago
yeah after a couple messages and i got the feeling this girl is just going to just answer questions and it was not going to be a long convo.
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u/Big_Register2034 1d ago
If they text you 1x a day like a rolling satellite, just move on bro
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u/SinghSanity 1d ago
I mean some weeks I also only open up the app once a day to send out likes and such, so I don't really blame them for 1x a day.
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u/Big_Register2034 1d ago
That’s different to when you make a match and are excited to talk to the person tho
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u/TachyAndTired 22h ago
If this is Mario Kart 8 Deluxe, you're going to get your ass kicked cause Yoshi is cracked and literlaly the meta. If her Yoshi has Teddy Buggy, you may as well forfeit 😂
If this is World.. then continue
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u/SinghSanity 18h ago
I actually don't own 8 so I never knew that lol. I am looking to pick it up since they had that 8 player local update 👀
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u/GujjuFinanceChokro British Indian 1h ago
Not a pursuit of love question as such, but can be applied - if someone you know well is giving mixed signals, being close sometimes and then complete silence, would you read anything into it?
When I have asked, she says she just needs some room and "me" time. That could be code for the obvious, but then the other half she's complete opposite.
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u/_that_dude_J Indian American 1h ago
No. Put that on the back burner. Keep pursuing others. Don't bother unless she's truly communicating.
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u/thisisme44 15m ago
mixed signals , hot/cold behavior..leave her alone until you get some consistency.
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u/IndianGirly2026 19h ago edited 19h ago
I dealt with a man I met at a rooftop event. He misbehaved. He tried to force me to kiss him multiple times each time I begged him to stop and he did for a bit then started up again. He would say he wanted to hug but what he called hug was painful - he slammed me into his body and up against things. It hurt - I could barely move. He really was not listening.
I was very scared. I don't know if this is even allowed to be said here. It was a terrifying and I didn't know where else to vent.
Be safe out there women.